Initial kiss and commitment

LegacyUser

I've never really been much into dating, mainly due to shyness - any relationships I got into were long-drawn-out until well past their sell-by date. The problem was, I ended up with women I was only vaguely interested and my attraction (or the girl's) fizzled out soon and the whole situation tended to drag on for way too long. So for a long time I avoided romantic relationships completely.

Now, I want to start dating again but also don't want to hurt anyone if I lose interest again. I avoid going for the essential initial kiss because I don't want to commit to anything that won't work out. My question is, I suppose, how soon after the initial kiss is a man expected to commit to something longer term? Is it Ok to kiss someone then date someone else? Sorry about my naivete, but I'm lacking in experience and like I said don't want to hurt anyone.

SarahSassy

A kiss to me would signify that he liked me and that he felt there was an element of chemistry there. As such, that would indicate to me that he would like to meet again. I think if you dont want to meet them again then dont kiss them - its not nice to lead people on but if you think you would like to see them again but are not sure you want to marry them then kiss away.

We dont live the the USA and as such the dating til exclusive doesnt operate very well here. Some people adopt that attitude but a lot dont and it can lead to confusion and hurt... If you are starting to see one person regularily then I personally would stop dating / seeing others as a matter of respect.

Its difficult to know when it becomes a relationship - I guess when ye both decide it is a relationship. If you want to keep it v casual then dont for sure sleep with them.

LegacyUser

Thanks, Sarah. The female perspective is much appreciated.

LegacyUser

'If you are starting to see one person regularily '

Having just re-read your post, just wondering how often you would consider regularly? Thanks again