What to do?

LegacyUser

I am a 23 year old Irish gal currently in a relationship with a Nigerian guy.The relationship is very great,we like and respect each other.He is 25 and a medical doctor ,very loving and enterprising.I have two problems.
1.My parents dont want us to be together because of his race.
2.This is quite embarasing but he has a very massive penis(and this hurts during sex) no matter how gentle he trys and bless him he is very understanding.

My question is: Do I have a future with him if my parents dont like him and how do I cope with his size.Thanks

Wurly

1. Tell your parents to butt out of your life. You are an adult and you can date who you please. If he was treating you badly, then they'd have a point. But for them to disapprove just because the of the man's colour/race is ludicrous and downright offensive. Basically, it's their problem, not yours.

2. Make sure that you are properly lubricated and relaxed before he enters you. Stress again to be gentle. I am not sure what else to suggest here tbh.

Salome

It might not be a case of your parents not liking him. It could be a fear on their part of you leaving Ireland to live in Nigeria one day if you and your man were to get married. Also, like it or not, there are still people in this country who object to mixed-race couples - would you be able to cope if you or your OH were abused by such neanderthals?

Maybe they are just thinking of you - life might be difficult for you and they are mindful of that.

Dardania

Regrding your parents disapproval, it is your life not theirs so you should thank them for taking the time to express their views and ignore them. We're part of a newer generation than our parents; one that is typically more racially tolerant thanks to the opportunities of travel & global media. How far have you gone to tell them your feelings for your BF - have they met him?

If they wish to cause problems with you in future you may be running the risk of being in a position of having to choose him or them...how would you feel about that?

Regarding the pain issue as a (hopefully) normal caucasian equipped guy I can't be of too much help - but have you tried positions where you control the depth eg girl on top?

thebiggestjim

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I am a 23 year old Irish gal currently in a relationship with a Nigerian guy.The relationship is very great,we like and respect each other.He is 25 and a medical doctor ,very loving and enterprising.I have two problems.
1.My parents dont want us to be together because of his race.
2.This is quite embarasing but he has a very massive penis(and this hurts during sex) no matter how gentle he trys and bless him he is very understanding.

My question is: Do I have a future with him if my parents dont like him and how do I cope with his size.Thanks

Me thinks your not a 23 Irish Girl, a 23 year old Irish girl does not talk like this. You sound more like the Nigerian guy.

Wibbs

thebiggestjim leave the modding to the mods and use the report post function if you have an issue. Closed. If the OP wants to PM one of the mods of RI in complete confidence it will be re-opened.