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Funkyspunkball

Can people please share any internet romance horror stories they've heard of to cheer me up? I found out today that my ex is havin a guy from NY come over and stay with her next month

Seeing as her x-rated dealings with this guy are the reason we broke up ya can imagine i'm pretty peeved to say the least.

I am dying to hear all the ways it can go wrong for her :rolleyes:

My name is URL

Maybe instead of holding a grudge you could attempt to get over what happened and move on

I'm sure it would be easier than devoting your time to hoping that bad things happen to her and by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve your time.

Funkyspunkball

My name is URL wrote: »

Maybe instead of holding a grudge you could attempt to get over what happened and move on

Cheers!

I'm sure it would be easier than devoting your time to hoping that bad things happen to her and by the sounds of it she doesn't deserve your time.

Would love to be over her, thing is I see her 5 days a week in work....I guess there is the message right there...DO NOT get involved with work people...lesson learned

randylonghorn

Funkyspunkball wrote: »

Would love to be over her, thing is I see her 5 days a week in work....I guess there is the message right there...DO NOT get involved with work people...lesson learned

Ouch, in fairness!

But while that makes it more difficult, you do need to let it go for your own sake.

Maybe try and arrange a break away for yourself at the time he's due over? ... gives you something to look forward to, and if it means you will be away and in no danger of bumping into them around town all the better.

Ginny

Its not really a PI is it?
You broke up, it doesn't matter why, you're both adults, get on with your life and let her get on with hers, what she does is not really any concern of yours anymore.

ellie1

ehhh........none of your business....

Gemini Sister

Getting away for that week is a great idea.

Also remind yourself that its a marathon not a race. She may have someone new next month, but who will you be next October or next year or 2014?

At least thats what I always told myself when my exes hooked up five mins after the break up

Book yourself a holiday and take your mind off!

Wagon

ellie1 wrote: »

ehhh........none of your business....

ehhh....that would be useful if it wasn't ****ing useless....

Well OP, you can always hope she catches AIDS of him or something. Seriously though, how did you find out? Did she tell you?

Nevyn

Wagon if you have an issue with a post report it.

Op for your own sanity sake move out.

Overheal

Start looking for a new job.

Or if you're lucky they'll fall madly in love and she'll move to the States and then you won't have to lift a finger. Best case scenario.

ellie1

Wagon wrote: »

ehhh....that would be useful if it wasn't ****ing useless....

Well OP, you can always hope she catches AIDS of him or something. Seriously though, how did you find out? Did she tell you?

lets hope the op follows your excellent useful advice and hopes his EX contracts AIDS. Who cares how he found out? or if she told him.It is none of his business. Wagon, your advice is stupid. "i hope my ex contracts AIDS because she has a new fella"

Op...Build a bridge.

We all have vengfull thoughts when we are rejected or hrt by others. I am not going to fuel your fire. Its none of your business what she does anymore.

silverwater

Googling 'sex injury' uncovers many humorous stories...

Apart from that you could try finding a new job, but that seems a little drastic to me...

Wagon

ellie1 wrote: »

lets hope the op follows your excellent useful advice and hopes his EX contracts AIDS. Who cares how he found out? or if she told him.It is none of his business. Wagon, your advice is stupid. "i hope my ex contracts AIDS because she has a new fella"

I thought it was actually quite genius Ah well, live and learn.

and it does matter if she told him or not. if he asked, then he got his answer. But if she happily told him "oh that american bloke i was cheating on you with is coming to stay next month!" then the feckin bitch is rubbing it in his face and stopping him from getting over her. If it was a case of the latter then it wouldn't matter if it's his business or not, she was going to tell him anyway.

Mr. Incognito

Cut the guy some slack- no one wants to have it rubbed in their face.

Mate- Not much you can do- I feel for ya. Here's hoping you find your own wonderful lady and she isn't a 5 hour flight away.

Funkyspunkball

Wagon wrote: »

I thought it was actually quite genius Ah well, live and learn.

and it does matter if she told him or not. if he asked, then he got his answer. But if she happily told him "oh that american bloke i was cheating on you with is coming to stay next month!" then the feckin bitch is rubbing it in his face and stopping him from getting over her. If it was a case of the latter then it wouldn't matter if it's his business or not, she was going to tell him anyway.

No I didn't ask at all, she just came out with it the other day randomly. So yea it was MADE my business.

Wagon

Funkyspunkball wrote: »

No I didn't ask at all, she just came out with it the other day randomly. So yea it was MADE my business.

Tell her to **** off then. I can understand why you're pissed off, she's doing it to make you jealous. I'd get pissed off hearing that myself. any chance that you could quit your job or get transferred? Even to a different part of the building?

LegacyUser

since you asked a question ill answer. I met a really great guy on the net, so we chatted for months then met. everything went great i moved over here to ireland and 3 years on we are just married. not all horror stories but im sure thats not what you wanted to hear. My advice to you would be move on anyone who hurts someone they are supposed to love is not worth your time and effort!!!!

merlie

Just ignore it and move on with your life.

BumbleB

I dont think you have much too worry about.I was away on assignment in the states and I have rarely seen a guy there who had any sort of game going on.

Thats why you have all that pick up artist crap seminars in the States .

gerrycollins

Funkyspunkball wrote: »

Can people please share any internet romance horror stories they've heard of to cheer me up? I found out today that my ex is havin a guy from NY come over and stay with her next month

Seeing as her x-rated dealings with this guy are the reason we broke up ya can imagine i'm pretty peeved to say the least.

I am dying to hear all the ways it can go wrong for her :rolleyes:

I met my now wife on the net.

Mimikyu

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G-Money

To put it quite simply "She is his problem now".

It's obvious you are bitter and resentful at how things have worked out and while that is understandable, it's definitely something you need to get away from.

I'm sure most of us have been in the boat before where we feel annoyed at a person for something ending. It's hard to let go of the bitterness and I'm not exactly sure how to do it. I'm still a little resentful myself over how something ended for me.

I don't know how much you like your job and whether changing jobs at the moment is an option. If not, just try and ignore her. Just because she is your ex doesn't mean you have to a cheerleader there wishing her all the best with everything.

Just avoid her as after all, unless you have to speak to her for work reasons, you really have no reason to ever talk to her again.

Sorry, I can be pretty callous when it comes to breakups. In my mind once it's over, there's no need to ever speak to the other person ever again.

LegacyUser

Well, you've received some good advice about moving on, finding a new workplace and arranging to be out of town when the American is here. And you should listen to all of that. But since you asked, I will oblige you with some of my Internet dating mishaps. I've met a few men from the Internet over the years.

1) All but one were at least 2" inches shorter than they mentioned in their profiles.I don't know why men do this. I'm just average height and I never specified a minimum height.

2) Two of them sent pictures which were taken before their hairlines had severely receded.

3) One bloke lied about his age...he ended up being 8 years older than he claimed.

4) Only one of the people I met looked better than in his picture. All of the rest looked older,heavier,nerdier etc..People tend to use pictures which show them at their absolute best. Or they use old pictures..In the worst cases they use pictures of completely different people.

5) A man I met in person after talking on-line for 2 months had the most annoying California "Surfer Dude" accent with a nasal voice. He came across as very intelligent in his emails, but his voice and accent made him sound completely vapid in person.

6) Same guy as above had a chronic case of garlic breath.

7) One otherwise sound man was just appalling in bed..He was incredibly stiff, inhibited, had absolutely no idea how to use his hands...He kept whinging on about various aches and pains..and he was a Minute Man.

8) A man painted himself out to be a high-powered executive who spent his days controlling legions of employees and working on huge "deals." It turned out he was an IT consultant..The funny thing was that I didn't really care about all of that. It was the lying that bothered me.

Basically what this all shows is that connecting with someone on line is far different than meeting them in the flesh. People can hide their flaws so easily..people can lie or create fantasy personas..So your ex might be in for some surprises.

Funkyspunkball

grandmaster wrote: »

To put it quite simply "She is his problem now".

It's obvious you are bitter and resentful at how things have worked out and while that is understandable, it's definitely something you need to get away from.

I'm sure most of us have been in the boat before where we feel annoyed at a person for something ending. It's hard to let go of the bitterness and I'm not exactly sure how to do it. I'm still a little resentful myself over how something ended for me.

I don't know how much you like your job and whether changing jobs at the moment is an option. If not, just try and ignore her. Just because she is your ex doesn't mean you have to a cheerleader there wishing her all the best with everything.

Just avoid her as after all, unless you have to speak to her for work reasons, you really have no reason to ever talk to her again.

Sorry, I can be pretty callous when it comes to breakups. In my mind once it's over, there's no need to ever speak to the other person ever again.

Im gona run with the whole not speakin' to her when it isnt needed idea. And it really isnt need very often. Since I started this thread i have been thinkin an awful lot about why it even bothers me so much and in all honesty, right now I can say it doesn't. Im better off without her and enjoyin my singledom (pease and quiet) :cool:
So let her have her fun...and I DO NOT hope she "catches AIDS" as someone said. Cheers for all the advice and critisism guys and gals!!!
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