Heartbroken about ex

LegacyUser

I was with my ex for 2 years and i found out last dec that he had cheated on me. What made it worse is that he lied about it, even after I asked him directly (was suspicious as he'd been to stay with a female friends I'd never met while interrailing, and was reluctant to show me the holiday photos). I was devestated when I found out, broke down in tears and he said he was sorry but he realised he wanted it to work with me and knew i would have dumped him if I found out. Well after that I dumped him anyway, I was heartbroken but I couldnt be with someone who respected me so little (this was the last in a line of things). He said he was sorry and that this time he'd stay single for a while (he had the habit of jumping from girl to girl).

Well I only found out today that he's been seeing someone since February (hardly a 'break from girls'!) and that she just went on holiday to Turkey with his family! wtf like. I feel like ive been punched in the stomach. First he cheats on me and then starts going out with this other girl, seems like shes part of the family now!!! Even worse that they've been 'friends' for a while and I met her at a party and thought she seemed a bit over flirty with my ex.

I know youll tell me to move on but Im just crushed that after 2 years he just moved on so fast!! I got on well with his family and now Ive just been replaced by this other girl! I knew it would happen but I didnt think so soon

liz71

I know exactly how you feel.I was with someone for 14 years and he has someone new already and we are only broke up 5 months.:mad:All you can do is try and keep busy, spend alot of time with your friends.Get rid of everything that reminds you of him,and most important no contact.Its the only way to move on.Each day gets easier believe me.
Take Care.

LegacyUser

i hear you, although my ex is not ready to date anyone yet as he says, 5 months broken up, i found it hard to do the no contact!

So good luck, cos for me, even though people say it gets easier everyday, i don't seem to be able to pass the 3 weeks marks!! i don't know why.
SO I have to re-start all over again everytime. Although, in my defense he's the one getting in touch with me, I shouln't reply.....i know.-(

best of luck to you! just think you're not the only one, look at all the posts here bout break ups!!

PS. still have to mention, although it seems guys have issues to to move on, majority of the time they seem to move on to new girls fairly quicker than a girl getting over a guy who dumped her.
I know, its not a generality but from what i see and hear it is...

IRISH RAIL

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I was with my ex for 2 years and i found out last dec that he had cheated on me. What made it worse is that he lied about it, even after I asked him directly (was suspicious as he'd been to stay with a female friends I'd never met while interrailing, and was reluctant to show me the holiday photos). I was devestated when I found out, broke down in tears and he said he was sorry but he realised he wanted it to work with me and knew i would have dumped him if I found out. Well after that I dumped him anyway, I was heartbroken but I couldnt be with someone who respected me so little (this was the last in a line of things). He said he was sorry and that this time he'd stay single for a while (he had the habit of jumping from girl to girl).

Well I only found out today that he's been seeing someone since February (hardly a 'break from girls'!) and that she just went on holiday to Turkey with his family! wtf like. I feel like ive been punched in the stomach. First he cheats on me and then starts going out with this other girl, seems like shes part of the family now!!! Even worse that they've been 'friends' for a while and I met her at a party and thought she seemed a bit over flirty with my ex.

I know youll tell me to move on but Im just crushed that after 2 years he just moved on so fast!! I got on well with his family and now Ive just been replaced by this other girl! I knew it would happen but I didnt think so soon

The guy is living his life youve been broken up 5 months now, so what if he is with someone else a little harsh but its nothing to do with you anymore you dumped him ok he cheated which is the ultimate thing but youve got to move on and forget him.

LegacyUser

Try to remember it gets a little easier. Im not from Ireland, I stumbled upon this board trying to find some cool places to someday visit. Regardless, smile and look forward to each passing day. Each time you wake the hurt fades.

I was locked up for a drug charge in the states for a year. During that time my wife of 4 years decided that she had been put through enough and left. I lost pretty much EVERYTHING I had and EVERYONE I cared for. But it was what I needed at the time and didn't know it. Since then I have finished one degree and am halfway through another (I actually went to two colleges at once!). I have been clean for two years now. I remember the person I was before I made all the stupid decisions of the last few years.

Things will get easier.

LegacyUser

Nop, litltle correction irish rail, the first post has nothing to do with the last before yours, im not the unregistered who posted the thread!
my ex didnt cheat on me and he still "loves" me! although i know this can be questionable has he broke up!! i know!

but thx!!