what to do

LegacyUser

right I went out the other night to a friends gig. I hadn't seen the friend in about a year as he was friends with an ex of mine and I lost contact with him during the break up.
while at the gig I seen this girl who was absolutely beautiful and I coudln't take my eyes off her all night and I noticed she kept looking over at me too. at first I assumed she was looking over cos I was looking at her and I must have been freaking her out or something but as soon as she realised i knew some of her friends she came straight up and said 'Hi! I've been meaning to talking to you all night you look really interesting.'
So we went to the bar and then found a seat and had a chat and just clicked really well.
So all was going really well till after the gig when she went to the toilet and was gone for about 15 minutes and when she came back she was kind of slightly off. she was standing up at the bar and was having a conversation with the barman who was flirting with her. so we got back to talking and I asked her if she'd like to come with us to the next bar but she declined and said she had work the next morning, so I asked her if it would be inappropriate to ask for her phone number and she replied that it would be as she had just recently seperated from her husband and the divorce wasn't final. so I said that was fine but that I liked her anyway and would she like to hang out as friends and so we agreed and she gave me her number. then she pointed out her friend on the dance floor and was like 'wow isn't she so hot?' and I was like 'no she's not really my type' and then she goes 'would you be really mad if I asked that barman for his number?' and I said 'no no go ahead'

now at the time I was like 'yeah thats fine' but then I kinda got it into my head that she had kind of disrespected me a bit. it was inappropriate to ask for her number as she wasn't ready to date but ok for her to ask someone for their number cos she was interested in dating them?
I asked a mutual friend about it and they said she was just cooky and was probably on a man hunt after seperating from the husband and that was fine but a different friend told me that she'd gone to the toilet with the girl she'd pointed out on the dance floor, who had told her all about me and my ex (the break up had been a bit messy) and the same girl had also been saying she thought i was hot earlier in the night (she then proceeded to text me all the next day despite me not really reciprocating) so I went up and asked the girl I liked if I could talk to her for a minute with the intention of asking if she had suddenly cooled towards me due to hearing bout me and my ex but I somehow managed to start it off with asking why she thought it was ok to be reluctant to give me her number but to ask the barman for his. so I came accross like a jealous ass when that wasn't my intention, she basically became very uncomfortable and said 'ok delete my number and forget it I'm sorry I'm new to this whole being single thing'

so after we left the pub I was standng there and she came up and pulled my hair from behind and was like 'hi' and I just said 'listen I'm really sorry I came across like a complete tool there I hope I didn't freak you out' and she was like 'yeah you did a little bit' and then I said 'ok well I'm sorry and I'll text you next week and if you wanna hang out cool if you don't also cool I'd understand' and then she said good bye and walked off with some other guy (who'd been with her group of friends not sure if he was a guy who was after her or just a friend)
anyway I texted when i got home and got no reply.

that was about 2 days ago and I'm kinda thinking of chancing one more text cos it's been quite a long time since I met someone I liked and before it went arseways she really did seem to like me.
the only thing holding me back is that I might run into her at a future gig and seem like a stalker for having texted her when she didn't reply the first time.

Beruthiel

hrmmmmmm wrote: »

the only thing holding me back is that I might run into her at a future gig and seem like a stalker for having texted her when she didn't reply the first time.

I'm blue in the face saying this - if you had phoned her in the first place you would not be posting here now. You would already know exactly what the story is.

Now, forget about texting and just call the woman!

That_Guy

Call her mate. You'll have a much better idea where you stand if you call her. You'll be able to hear from her tone of voice whether she seems interested in you or not.

If she's not interested delete her number and move on.

Best of luck.