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How can I tell if this relationship is going anywhere?

  • 07-05-2009 05:26PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I met a new guy, we're officially a couple 3 months....due to both of our demanding work schedules we can really only make time for eachother at the weekends. I love every second i spend with him but i find it awkward on the phone during the week. Both of us were in serious relationships in the past....we are both over our exes and were both single for more than a year before we got together but i feel like both of us are holding back before we say we're in love.....it's like we're afraid to move forward, i want to discuss it but he says he isn't able to talk about his feelings and i don't want to put presure on. It's just starting to feel a bit like we're stuck in a rut already, trying not to get too involved in case we get hurt or something.

    I really like this guy and i don't want to make him feel awkward but this whole thing is starting to come between us a little I think.


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  • #2
    bluecell99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 259 ✭✭bluecell99


    why not just continue as you are for the time being.Three months is not that long.Putting pressure on and wanting to know where you stand is a recipe for disaster at this point in time - given what you say.Take it step by step and it will happen in its own time - if it is meant to be.YOu cant force change and accelerate the process just to suit you.

    You have been involved in a serious relationship before.You know whats involved.


  • #3
    Banrion
    Closed Accounts Posts: 95 ✭✭Banrion


    Myself and my now husband used to only see each other at weekends and it was tough. It was quite hard to get to know someone when you only see them full on at the weekend. THe weekends then become very intense. Things get blown out of proportion. We used to row more. I would agree with bluecell in that 3 months is still a relatively short period of time.
    Are you afraid he doesnt feel the same way about you? Are you afraid to tell him youve strong feelings in case its not reciprocated? Otherwise, why worry? Just enjoy it...


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