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Quick one!! Need help though!!!

  • 07-05-2009 11:42am
    #1
    05D
    Closed Accounts Posts: 190 ✭✭


    Hi All,Have a bit of an issue at the moment with my O/H we have been going out 2 1/2 years. There is a substansial age gap between him and me. To cut a long story short I am useless with words and exressing myself, and lately he wants me to leave him because he feels that I am going to look back at out relationshio in years to come and regret being with him.I really do love adore him and I try to tell him that his way of thinking is not the way to think on our relationship. I am really struggling with getting the point across, I know I just need one simple sentence to make him realise. Its just proving very hard to find!!!If anyone has any ideas or could help me!! Thanks05D


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  • #2
    prinz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,598 ✭✭✭✭prinz


    'I love you' - and mean it.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey OP - I consider myself the same, (not able to express myself properly), and the more important the issue the worse my capabability becomes.... What I found out really was that I was crap at verbalising my thoughts & feelings, but when i put pen to paper, there was no problem at all, and i was quite succinct and clear... Perhaps sit down and write how you are feeling?! write it a few times if you need to.. also that way he can read over it several times too...


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I agree with above..

    Although what is your age gap!? are you older or younger...im guessing by your post you might be alot younger than him...

    ask him if he loves you, tell him you love him...and that no one knows what will happen in the future but you want it with him!!

    Simple

    good luck


  • #5
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Tell him you love him and one day of happiness with him is worth more to you than 100 yrs with someone else.

    Really, who knows what will happen tomorrow. FGS - you could get hit by a bus crossing the road tonight.

    Best of luck - and I am sure you will convince him to "grow up" and stop all this shenanegans... :)

    Where is it written that soul mates have to be the same age....


  • #6
    05D
    Closed Accounts Posts: 190 ✭✭05D


    FGS - you could get hit by a bus crossing the road tonight.
    This is what I've been saying all along. That I take everyday as it comes..... The age gap is 20 years. We get on so well together and everything, he just feels like he is depriving me.... I keep telling him that I'm happy as larry with him but, He's recentlely lost his job and is having some financial difficulties so he's feeling a bit sorry for himself.


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  • #7
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    I love you.
    I want to be with you, just you.
    I am with you for what we have now, not for what might be tomorrow.
    Stop pushing me away, when I dont want to go.
    If you love me, trust me, and let me be with you.

    Thats what I would say, I think. If you spend your life worrying about what might happen tomorrow, you forget to enjoy today. If your bf constantly worries about how you might feel, and stresses you with it, he will end up losing you one way or the other. Talk to him deeply, and ask what is it about him that makes him keep saying this to you. He may realise its not so much to do with you at all, and more to do with his own attitude to his age and his self esteem.


  • #8
    05D
    Closed Accounts Posts: 190 ✭✭05D


    Oryx wrote: »
    I love you.
    I want to be with you, just you.
    I am with you for what we have now, not for what might be tomorrow.
    Stop pushing me away, when I dont want to go.
    If you love me, trust me, and let me be with you.

    Thats what I would say, I think. If you spend your life worrying about what might happen tomorrow, you forget to enjoy today. If your bf constantly worries about how you might feel, and stresses you with it, he will end up losing you one way or the other. Talk to him deeply, and ask what is it about him that makes him keep saying this to you. He may realise its not so much to do with you at all, and more to do with his own attitude to his age and his self esteem.

    Thanks Oryx, that is really helpful!


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