Problems with my new girlfriend

LegacyUser

So here it goes, I can't stop being an idiot with my girlfriend, at this stage i'm really thinking that it's not actually me. I can't be chilled with her because she doesn't trust me at all when we try talk about it she dismisses it saying it's just the way it is. She doesn't beleave me about my ex's because of what people have told her.
I always have to do the whole wanna do something thing and when I say it she usually replys with a " what ever, I don't mind!"
It really irritates me as I like her alot.
When I talk to her I usually slag her abit, which i feel is abit of banter stuff she would do to me i do back and she doesn't like it one bit which i try say thats how i feel.
I don't know what to do when we talk I usually just end up rambling on or go on with something stupid.
She gets mad at partys when I talk to people while she's talking with her friend/friends and then says that I'm not talking to her and gets in to a huff about it.
I really don't know how to react to all of this, I'm never sure if she wants to see me or how to be when I'm around her, If I'm myself theres something wrong if I'm not theres still something wrong I'm in a lose, lose situation.
She always notices the little subtle things we do, and mind were not 15 year olds, were both in college.
She will say to me well i don't think I'm that kind of girl when she asked me about my ex and went on about saying that "I dunno if your wit de right person ha. XxXxX" I really didn't know how to react but assure her that I was with the right person.

Mr. Incognito

Wow. That hurt my brain. A lot.

Try proper grammer and paragraphs.

Your girlfriend sounds like an insecure girl to be honest. You sound like you're getting your head wrecked all over the place. The only cure for that sort of stuff is time mate. She'll come around in time when she knows that you're not going anywhere and she trusts you.

Sometimes trust has to be earned.

SarahSassy

Lost interest after line no 2.. If you rejig it and make it legible Ill be more than happy to read and respond. Not surprised ye have communication issues.

Eh? How are you the idiot, she sounds like an insecure headwreck...?

Lollipops23

she sounds like a pain in the arse, completely immature and annoying. she doesn't trust you to tell her about previous relationships and throws hissy fits for no apparent reason.....need i go on cos the answer is painfully clear to me....

PCPhoto

I'm in a similar position - and she's my EX .... (we're still in contact...for the life of me I dont know why)....... she thinks I'm bipolar andI think the same of her.... from zero to arguement in 4 sentences !!!

Queencake

Yup she sounds extremely insecure.

But I'm gonna play devil's advocate for a sec.

Do you mention your exs alot? Think about it though... A story here, a joke there... I've known people who mention their exs alot but if you ever were to say it to them they swear blind they don't.

I was super insecure with my first bf but it was because he mentioned his ex LOTS. I haven't been that insecure since. He made me feel like I was nuts but looking back, I was right to be worried AND he did play a role in my insecurity. If you asked him about it he'd say he was an angel :rolleyes:

It could just be that she's insecure but maybe, just maybe, you are playing a part in it...

Beruthiel

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and mind were not 15 year olds.

I beg to differ.
You maybe older but are still acting like teenagers.
She needs to grow up and you have allowed her to act this way.

she doesn't trust me at all

Not a hope in hell that I would waste my valuable time on someone who didn't trust me.