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Ex, new possible, circles

  • 03-05-2009 6:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm 30, shes 25. Can't stop driving by her house praying for a glimpse. Went out with her 3 years.Broke up last september, got back for 2 weeks at Christmas, I ended it again. Within 2 weeks I missed her like hell again. She was my best friend and we were like a house on fire in bed. I ended it for lots of reasons, couldnt get over her flings while we were broken up, her lies, the dependent personality that took me over when we were together and made me not want to do anything(lack of ambition and motivation, which are important to me as I'm a manic depressive), the desire to do 'better' than her eating at me, and girl number 2.
    This other girl Ive been flirting with for a few months even though shes nearly 10 years younger than me she just seems so mature for her age, which I didnt know about until a month ago. I seem to have things in common with her and think shes sound.I was thinking of asking her out on a date. Turns out her ex was older than me and she dumped him a few weeks ago, but Ive heard she is a bit cut up and it might be the wrong time to ask her..so not sure.
    So anyway I keep going in circles with my thoughts about the two of them, on the one hand I want to drop everything and declare my undying love to my ex, and on the other I want to try again with someone else, kinda like trying to move forward. My ex's birthday is coming up this month and I was gonna book two tickets to vegas and marry her out there...insane I know.
    and then I heard the other day that my ex could have been pregnant with another fellas child when she got back with me at Christmas, that she didnt know. and I heard she was seen going into the toilets of a night club with a fella. This kinda stuff just destroys me...I can't deal with it.
    I'm just looking for advice, not too experienced in relationships, but no spring chicken either so my clocks ticking.

    Ps and by the way I have been with a good few girls besides these two but these two I like the most. Point being its not as if I'm not getting out there.


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  • #2
    SarahSassy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,145 ✭✭✭SarahSassy


    I think you need to take some time away from all women and work on yourself. You sound as if you are going through a 'manic' period with the whole marriage plan etc.

    You could not make a relationship work with the ex so a marriage should not be walked into lightly...

    As for the other girl, just let her go for a while and try to get your own head and heart sorted.


  • #3
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    SarahSassy wrote: »
    I think you need to take some time away from all women and work on yourself. You sound as if you are going through a 'manic' period with the whole marriage plan etc.

    You could not make a relationship work with the ex so a marriage should not be walked into lightly...

    As for the other girl, just let her go for a while and try to get your own head and heart sorted.

    Best advice really. You're in a form of panic mode, driving by her house, wanting to impulse buy tickets to get married?

    You need to stay away from her, it isn't and wasn't working so for your own sanity, keep away. As for the new girl, if you're that caught up on your ex, then you're not that into the new girl and need time away to get your head together


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