Age differences

LegacyUser

I really like a girl (woman) in one of my college classes, but its a night course, so while most people there are around 23 like myself, some are I'd guess 45. I'm not good at guessing ages, especially of women, but I'm sure she must be 25-35, how could I find out in a delicate way?

Wibbs

I suppose the easiest answer is why bother finding out? I mean if you like her and she likes you, that info will come out in the fullness of time anyway.

star-pants

What Wibbs says is true, age is just a number really. Is it a case you wouldn't be interested if she was a certain age? You could always start up a conversation anyway see how things go from there.

LegacyUser

star-pants wrote: »

...Is it a case you wouldn't be interested if she was a certain age? You could always start up a conversation anyway see how things go from there.

Well in matters of love you want someone similar, age does matter, even for the practicalities, like if I'm 24 and she is say 34 chances are she has a "career" while I only have a "job"

finding out a woman's age, any woman, is always hard, its always a secret, I think I'd be able to find out an address easier than an age! but I'll try and work into a conversation, any ideas?

star-pants

Unregistered wrote: »

Well in matters of love you want someone similar, age does matter, even for the practicalities, like if I'm 24 and she is say 34 chances are she has a "career" while I only have a "job"

Sorry I just was curious, as you didn't mention your own age so I wasn't sure if the bracket was above or below your own age.

Well unless you make a joke or comment about something from say the 80s and say something silly like 'sure you probalby wouldn't remember that' or something. And see how she reacts? Or even talk about your own age, is your birthday soon? or a friends?

Salome

You could always start a general conversation with a group, including her, asking when everyone did their leaving certs etc etc? Might give you a ball-park year.

sourwine

Unregistered wrote: »

Well in matters of love you want someone similar, age does matter, even for the practicalities, like if I'm 24 and she is say 34 chances are she has a "career" while I only have a "job"

Of course you want someone similar. But don't you think that similarity in opinions, lifestyle, leisure time activities and the likes is superior to similiarity in age?

Talk with her, get to know her a little bit and see where it goes. Don't "judge" a relationship before it has even a chance to begin. For sure there are a lot of reasons why it could go wrong. But her being older is certainly not the reason to not at least try it.

Good luck!

~Trixiebelle~

Wibbs wrote: »

I suppose the easiest answer is why bother finding out? I mean if you like her and she likes you, that info will come out in the fullness of time anyway.

I totally agree with this..... I wouldnt even mention your age to her or even try and discover hers. I don't know what is going on lately (desperate housewives!!?) but i have had so many 19-24 years olds try chat me up in the last 18 months (im 29). I would find it really off putting to even engage in the age difference so i would imagine she may be the same. Don't make it an issue... then hopefully it wont be one!!;)

Good Luck!!

SarahSassy

Ask her what she ws doing before starting the college course and go from there. If she says I was working then ask for how long etc.

bnagrrl

Unregistered wrote: »

finding out a woman's age, any woman, is always hard, its always a secret, I think I'd be able to find out an address easier than an age! but I'll try and work into a conversation, any ideas?

I wouldn't bother trying to find out her age this early on. If you focus too much on the age difference it'll look like you're making more of an issue of it than it is and I would imagine she'd find that very off putting.

smares

Why do you need to know her age. Is it going to make a huge difference if she is 35 not 25. Get to know her first and if you like her go for it. Age is only numbers shouldnt let it stop you

LegacyUser

I'd be more concerned to find out if she's single or not. Have you figured that out yet?

vector

Unregistered wrote: »

I'd be more concerned to find out if she's single or not. Have you figured that out yet?

thats a standard problem, at all ages, although if the woman here is say 35 then she could not only have boyfriend already, she could actually be married, the OP could end in an affair , how very adult

but seriously, in whatever the circumstances asking someone out involves taking a risk, so just do it

RacoonQueen

If she has a career so be it...it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things if you both like each other. Age IS only a number, your mammy might not agree when you tell her the age difference if you and the girl get together. The only worry for me if I was a guy going out with a girl ten years older than me would be that she may be in a hurry to have kids. I've always gone for older men, can't help it thats what I'm attracted to, if any I'd been with suggested kids I'd do a runner though.