F**k Buddies

LegacyUser

My ex and I broke up a year ago. Basically we are as the title says. We met up recently for drinks - and it was great. He had 3 drinks - maybe a bit drunk. He said I love you to me - then said oh sorry i shouldnt have said that! He said other nice stuff 2. Does anyone think im easy to be someones f**k buddy??? Should i just move on????

um7y1h83ge06nx

I reckon it's completely fine, once both people know that it's a f**k buddy arrangement and nothing more.

Once people practice safe sex, it's all fun.

star-pants

So your ex of over a year ago, drunkenly said he loved you?

to me, that means he has feelings, not of the fckbuddy variety.

Miss Fluff

So you're having sex with an ex and he said still he loves you. Agreed, not really a f8ck buddy situation. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Do you still have feelings for him?

Mr Benevolent

When exes fcuk it's NOT defined as being fcukbuddies. Don't blind yourself.

LegacyUser

we broke up cause i think he got cold feet. the sad thing is i wouldn't trust him again fully and he would be afraid to hurt me again. so we would never get back together. i do still love him to bits. maybe he does love me, maybe not. but its a hopeless situation as there is no way back

star-pants

So you guys broke up because he got scared?
And have been 'friends' since?

Look if it's definitely not going to work out, you're probably better off with space from him. IF ye haven't had space then ye can't get over things fully and move on.

Miss Fluff

Unregistered wrote: »

we broke up cause i think he got cold feet. the sad thing is i wouldn't trust him again fully and he would be afraid to hurt me again. so we would never get back together. i do still love him to bits. maybe he does love me, maybe not. but its a hopeless situation as there is no way back

OK well OP, I'm afraid it is a hopeless situation. This is a case of him having his cake and eating it and it will only completely wreck your head. For your own sake just stop seeing him in this capacity because this isn't going to go anywhere.

preilly79

Miss Fluff wrote: »

OK well OP, I'm afraid it is a hopeless situation. This is a case of him having his cake and eating it and it will only completely wreck your head. For your own sake just stop seeing him in this capacity because this isn't going to go anywhere.

surely you're not suggesting she isn't having her cake and eating it too? or does sex only benefit the male?

hi OP, it's hard to imagine both of you having no feelings whatsoever after a relationship has ended. it's to be expected, and clearly he still has feelings. maybe it was just something he would only say while drunk? are you happy with the situation or do you feel used?

magick

after a few drinks he says he still loves you?

well you can be f*ck buddies, but if he really "loves you" and you find someone else........well its gonna get messy

LegacyUser

i don't feel used as i want it just as much as him! i met other guys and i felt nothing. but with him i feel great. i wish it wasn't as messy between us but it is. i want him in my life so i feel thus is the only way. we went 2 months without a word between us. we rowed etc but now we are friends again i want things to stay good between us.

Salome

Sounds like there's too many feelings involved to be just f*ckbuddies.

LegacyUser

ur prob right - 2 many feelings invloved. oh well, guess i just gota wait and see waht happens!

SunInDublin

All i can tell you is usually exes having sex means at least one of the 2 has true feelings still and that usually ends with someone getting really hurts. (the one who wants to get back together usually)

think bout it, as i said in previous posts bout the subject, honesty is the best road...you love him and you want him in your life then tell him and you guys work it out.

best of luck