Kinda worried

LegacyUser

Hey guys
just wondering is it worrying that i am still a virgin at 21? i mean im not a prude but im just not interested in casual sex and all that, i wud prefer to be with sum one i luv but havent found anyone yet. i do go out and go with ppl etc but nothin major. just need a bit of feedback. thanks

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey guys
just wondering is it worrying that i am still a virgin at 21? i mean im not a prude but im just not interested in casual sex and all that, i wud prefer to be with sum one i luv but havent found anyone yet. i do go out and go with ppl etc but nothin major. just need a bit of feedback. thanks

i think thats really cool actually, and very sexy to any potential partner..you will prob sleep with a few people before you 'settle' but the fact you want to get emotionally invoved first is fab.

Rb

Certainly is a good thing, just don't get it into your head that you're missing out on something by not having a bunch of casual sex otherwise you'll try to "make up for lost time" and end up being known as the local whore.

Good luck!

Gemini Sister

Are you a girl or a guy?

No problem either way. Lots of people are virgins and maybe don't let on.

Assuming you're a girl...

Hmm. I never rated virginity very much, was dying to lose it! Decided to loose it one day when was 16, out of curiosity. Went out that night and did. Ouch it hurt! But felt good about loosing it, and the dude looked like elvis but probably couldn't spell elvis... anyway, you get the picture.

On the other hand, my friend waited til she was 27 and with that special guy. Guess what? It really hurt! And they broke up about six months later for various reasons...

My point being, virginity is a nice idea but at some point you still have to 'take the plunge'. I've yet to meet a girl for whom 'loosing it' has met that romantic ideal. Its a physical (entering/breakin/tearing) act. So value it, but don't put it on an altar.

LegacyUser

I know many friends both male and female, some older than you, that are virgins.

im sure a lot of people would find it attractive, even somewhat appealing that you're a virgin.

Although personally, from my own experiences I would prefer a girl that has been through the whole beginner episode.

Otis Driftwood

Absolutely nothing to be worried about OP.Sex is seen as such a throwaway thing in todays society and I find it very refreshing that there are people that have respect for themselves and dont just jump into bed with someone for the sake of it.One of my best friends was 24 when he lost his virginity.It was totally his own choice,handsome guy,great way with people but he just didnt feel the need for casual sex.He is now married to the girl and he doesnt regret,even slightly not sleeping with anyone else.

Dudess

Rb wrote: »

Certainly is a good thing, just don't get it into your head that you're missing out on something by not having a bunch of casual sex otherwise you'll try to "make up for lost time" and end up being known as the local whore.

Good luck!

How do you know the OP's a girl?

OP, it's definitely no big deal. Keeping sex casual is fine for some, for others it's a lot more. You're in the second category and that is absolutely normal and nothing to worry about. Sex is about the individual anyway, not social trends.

LegacyUser

i have to say as a guy in my mid twenties i think being a virgin at 21 is really really cool. i started young at 16 and sex is not really that important for me any more ive done most things now at this stage, but i feel the special feeling you get when youre with someone and its all fingers and thumbs (no pun intended), is exciting and probably the nicest feeling you can have; the innocence is gone for me now and its a shame, i wish i knew then what i know now, i would have savoured it more. but i say fair play to you! ROCK ON!!!!

Tinchy

dont be worried at all OP, i would 100% recommend waiting for someone you care about, i waited and im so glad i did, was my first long-term boyf and made sure i was ready, i hope you do too