Men trouble..

LegacyUser

Okay heres my dilemma. I just can not seem to be able to send out 'signals' that I like someone. I'm a friendly genuine person and in college I always stop and chat to people I know. I'd chat away and be friendly to lads who I know and get on with and I know I suppose where there's no attraction. Then when I'm interested in somebody, I seem to go weird and ignore them and get abit tongue tied at times when around them and other times I get kind of nervous and end up just throwing out a few questions and come across as being very blunt and then get agitated and I just walk away,all in all coming across to be very rude..and I walk away kicking myself and end up just having to laugh at my bridget jones like inability to be actually nice and cheerful to the guys I like.I'ts like I begin a silent war zone because then I sense that the person who I liked is thinking I'm really rude and so they become reluctant to talk to me. I get frustrated then, because I can't express myself and then act strange again when I meet the person I really am interested in...All my friends are go getters when they like guys but I always seem to ruin possibilities...
what's the magic?

diego ribas

what's the magic?

Alcohol.

Wibbs

diego ribas please read the charter of this forum in particular the bit about unhelpful posts.

G-Money

Talk to them, make it known you are interested. If all else fails, just suggest going for a drink. It doesn't require any shakesperean feats of linguistics to say "do you fancy going for a drink?"

Also please note that a lot of girls think they are making their intentions obvious when the actual reality of the situation is anything but. I'm sure we'll get a few "oh men are stupid/blind blah blah" responses and sometimes its true. But seriously, make it CLEAR. And I don't mean "I flicked my hair once at a 90 degree angle so I was throwing myself at him" type of signals

Some girls will also play games with a guy they like and tell the guy they have a boyfriend to test the guy and see how interested he is. This is quite possibly the stupidest tactic that has ever been invented, in any realm of life. Never ever tell a guy you like that you have a boyfriend. It's like going for a job interview for a job you desperately want and telling the interviewers you don't want the job, to see how keen they are to hire you. If you do that, it won't work, no amount of ridiculous backwards rationalisation will change that.

I've lost track of the amount of times I've met girls and I mistake their friendlyness for attraction or vice versa. And while I have to admit I may be at fault, they have to shoulder some responsibility as well for not making their intentions clear when they are interested.

LegacyUser

This may sound silly but its just the ticket:

Giggle.

Talking to a guy? Embarassed? In love? Whatever? Just giggle.

Act really friendly, listen to his stories, ask him about him, and GIGGLE.

I know it sounds really sexist (sorry) but guys love it when they think they're entertaining you, its just nature. Thats what my mate told me when was a shy young one. I'm not shy or young anymore but I still do it & 20 yrs later it still works!

(sssssh don't tell anyone I told you ;-)