Dreaming of boyfriends ex

hotchick77

hi all, me and my boyfriend are together nearly a year now and love each othe very much. he has 2 kids with his possesive ex who refuses to let go of their relationship even though its over years! We just moved in together and so far its been great but lately ive started dreaming about his ex and myself getting into vicious fights over himself! can anyone help as to why i keep having these dreams??????

Wurly

hotchick77 wrote: »

hi all, me and my boyfriend are together nearly a year now and love each othe very much. he has 2 kids with his possesive ex who refuses to let go of their relationship even though its over years! We just moved in together and so far its been great but lately ive started dreaming about his ex and myself getting into vicious fights over himself! can anyone help as to why i keep having these dreams??????

Well obviously you're having these dreams as the situation is really bothering you. As it would anyone.

How is your boyfriend handling the ex and the situation?

hotchick77

i havent told him about the dreams yet, he isnt to bothered about his ex and constantly tries to reassure me that he has no interest in her and loves me (the usual) but he entertains her and answer the phone to her evrytime she rings even though its usually to tell him some pointless story about her friends, i can help but wonder does he still love her????

star-pants

There may still be some vague connection between them but I would doubt there's anything there. She's still the mother of his children, horrible or not. And they have to stay on relatively good terms for the rest of their lives. Maybe it's easier to entertain her calls.

He's with you a year, you guys have moved in together, I don't think he'd do that if he was still caught up over the ex. He probably answers the phone too incase somethings happened or theres change in plan regarding the children etc.

I know it's annoying and that's why it's in your dreams because you're stressed over it & our subconscious will play it out in our dreams.

kittenkiller

If the mother of your children calls and you can't see where your kids are at that given moment, you answer your phone!
No matter what.

If he wanted to be with her, he'd be with her.
You've just got to relax a little about it.
She'll be a big part of his life as long as the kids are around.

He must want to be with you to have moved in with you and to bother to reassure you each time you stress about it.
However, constant reassuring can be tiring, you've got to learn to trust him.

Have you tried getting to know the ex?
See if she's as bad as you think?
Or even the slightest bit of a threat?
You might surprise yourself.

hotchick77

Have you tried getting to know the ex?
See if she's as bad as you think?
Or even the slightest bit of a threat?
You might surprise yourself.[/QUOTE]



no she refuses to meet me and wont let the kids anywhere near me, its pure childish i reckon this woman is 28 years old after all!!

hotchick77

guys i'm really looking to understand the meaning of this dream more so

star-pants

The dream is down to you worrying & stressing about the ex. And wondering if your OH still feels for her. You don't accept these doubts in everyday life so they culminate in your dreams.

I've had some reallllly odd dreams I'll tell you. (but I shan't freak you out)

You need to deal with these things in the waking world, you need to re-establish your trust in your OH and not let this contact with the ex sow seeds of doubt in your mind. Or else you will end up ruining the relationship.

O'Coonassa

hotchick77 wrote: »

can anyone help as to why i keep having these dreams??????

Yes it's called jealousy

kittenkiller

hotchick77 wrote: »

guys i'm really looking to understand the meaning of this dream more so

If it's purely a dream thing, maybe try this forum?
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=827