What are the chances are getting back together?

LegacyUser

I know this is a bit of a case of how long is a piece of string but would like to hear peoples opinions.
GF dumped me 2 mths ago after 6 yrs cause her feelings changed and she doesnt love me the way she should.
I have been up and down about it.
Do you think there is much of a chance that she might change her mind in time? I did treat her very well and love her dearly.

We havent been in contact.
I know i shouldnt be holding out for anything but there surely is a chance that she might regret it?

Beruthiel

Seriously.
Nobody can answer that question.

Nobody except her.
You know that.

Has she contacted you at all since you broke up?
Has she given you any sign whatsoever that she was still open to getting back?

LegacyUser

We met one week after break up to get closure on it and that has been it.
There isnt a 3rd party involved

Chocoholic84

I feel for you...but as Beruthiel said, no one can know that except you!

You need to give more detail...has there been any contact at all between you since the break?

Seeing as she is the one who instigated the split, I really think you shouldn't contact her, you said her reason was she didn't love you the way she should...? It takes a long time to come to a conclusion like that, and especially after 6 years, I'm sure she thought long and hard about her decision.

TBH, I reckon you should TRY and move on, I appreciate how hard this may be for you, but baby steps at a time!

Meet up with friends, family - don't be on your own as you'll wallow in pity and be tempted to call her.

Best of luck to you!

LegacyUser

Someone broke up with me after five years once. He wanted to get back together after about six months. We finally did get back together a few years later and have stayed together (so far) but its never been quite the same.

I'd say people get back together in about 10% of these situations.

BUT SHE WILL NOT BE BACK UNTIL YOU HAVE MOVED ON. I don't know why that is but it seems to be the rule. AND YOU CANNOT KEEP WAITING.

Keep living your life as if its really properly over. Its the only way. Don't break the contact rule. You're still only 2 mnths into this. It can 6-18 hard months to get over something like this. Be good to yourself. Jus because you're not ready to let go yet doesn't mean you will feel the same further down the line. Best of luck.

kitty_dillon1@h

I'm in a similar situation to you at the moment. My boyfriend and i finished 2 weeks ago after 3 and a half years. I initially finished it as we haven't been getting on as well lately but when i wanted to try again he said no he needed to be on his own to sort his head out. I'm devastated but I'm hoping after some time on his own he will realise that he's made a mistake.Only time will tell. tbh if he told me he didn't love me like he should like your girlfriend told you i would do my best to move on. i know it's hard and i don't even know how to go about moving on from someone i love so much but i keep telling myself if we're meant to be we will be.

who knows maybe your girlfriend will realise after some time on her own that she does still love you.i think sometimes people think if a relationship isn't like the honeymoon period the whole way through then it's not love!!she might think the grass is greener elsewhere but it may not be!

Tigger

Unregistered wrote: »

I know this is a bit of a case of how long is a piece of string but would like to hear peoples opinions.
GF dumped me 2 mths ago after 6 yrs cause her feelings changed and she doesnt love me the way she should.
I have been up and down about it.
Do you think there is much of a chance that she might change her mind in time? I did treat her very well and love her dearly.

We havent been in contact.
I know i shouldnt be holding out for anything but there surely is a chance that she might regret it?

i don't believe you can ever re-start a realationship
its like a mug if you break it you can superglue it together again but you'll be afraid its gonna spill hot tea in your lap

kittenkiller

After 6 years, it probably took a lot of soul searching and consideration for your feelings and where she saw her future going before she broke up with you.

I wouldn't say too many people make that sort of decision (and stick to it to the extent of no communication for so long) without believing they're doing the right thing.

Personally, I wouldn't keep my hopes up.

But.... I don't know either of you or how you think/feel or what your relationship was like.

Best of luck either way.

Wibbs

Unregistered wrote: »

BUT SHE WILL NOT BE BACK UNTIL YOU HAVE MOVED ON. I don't know why that is but it seems to be the rule. AND YOU CANNOT KEEP WAITING.

100% agree.