Can't meet a guy

LegacyUser

I'm not working so I have no money for a social life, I mean absolutely none, I can't even afford to rent a dvd. I don't live in a big place I think I've already joined about the only club that their is in town, the people in the group are about 20 years older than me. Two of my friends fathers is in the group. My brothers friends are a big no, for various reasons. I'm not meeting anyone new. I don't think that internet dating is really for me, I'm just not sure about that and I'd be paranoid talking to them(don't ask because I don't know, I just get paranoid talking on the internet/texting unless I'm very close with them). That leaves the guys I already know... I don't think any of them would want to go out with me and I wouldn't want to go out with most of them. This is getting me a bit down, I'm getting really lonely (single for 2 years) I'm just not meeting people and I don't know how I can get out there without spending money.

Kimia

Why aren't you working out of interest?

Move? Go to a different city, or different country for that matter, and get a job and build another life.

It sounds like you're stuck in a rut with everything, not just relationship wise.

ellie1

I think your search for a man needs to be put on the back burner until you get yourself a job.

Mr. Frost

mojave wrote: »

I'm not working so I have no money for a social life, I mean absolutely none, I can't even afford to rent a dvd. I don't live in a big place I think I've already joined about the only club that their is in town, the people in the group are about 20 years older than me. Two of my friends fathers is in the group. My brothers friends are a big no, for various reasons. I'm not meeting anyone new. I don't think that internet dating is really for me, I'm just not sure about that and I'd be paranoid talking to them(don't ask because I don't know, I just get paranoid talking on the internet/texting unless I'm very close with them). That leaves the guys I already know... I don't think any of them would want to go out with me and I wouldn't want to go out with most of them. This is getting me a bit down, I'm getting really lonely (single for 2 years) I'm just not meeting people and I don't know how I can get out there without spending money.

Agree with the above. I think you need to get on your feet and get your confidence back (seems to me your situation is taking this away somewhat) before you can think about getting a man. That will come in time. You need to look at other aspects of your life. My advice would be to look for a job in another county. Doesn't sound like there's much happening where you are and you don't seem to be going anywhere fast there.

I'm sure if she was able to walk in and out of jobs then she'd be working. Sadly, there are a lot of people unemployed.


Anyway,


OP, I don't really know what to say to you, to be honest. Try and expand your network of friend i guess. If you're having difficulty getting work, you could try your hand with a FAS course. I've been on a FAS course for a while now (it's a 12 week course) and i think it's great, and i've met a lot of people, so it's definitely something I'd recommend.

CDfm

You seem very choosy -now even I get why you wont date friends fathers.

But excluding your brothers friends is a bit extreme -I thought at least that would be easy. Can you explain why that is?

trevo

were is it your living???