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My head is wrecked!

  • 27-04-2009 3:40am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    right well i dont know where to start, and i know what im doing is crazy but i feel like a bloody self sabotager

    ok ive started seeing this guy, met him out a couple of weeks ago ang it was all going really well, hes not my usual type but he treats me like a princess, i have a laugh with him, and etc etc etc, all was going well till last week

    i was in a nightclub with the guy and i see my ex that i havnt seen since before we broke up over a year ago, we went out for 1 and a half years and were really close friends for a year before that, we broke up by phone, and i was heartbroken to say the least!,

    shock doesnt accurately describe my reaction to this chance meeting, and ever since i have been pokin holes in what i have with this new guy, i felt before it that it was feeling ok, but now im tripping myself up with questions of suitablility, etc, like i say hes not my usual type, and i feel like im comparing him to my ex, i was distraught for a while after we broke up,, and i fear im throwing away something good, now althogh now i dont no if it, si


    see im tripping myself up with negativity, what im saying is how the hell do i see the clear picture? i cant talk to my bestfriend about it, because if she thought i was allowing my ex head space again shed kill me, (she had to listen to it the first time around) am i settleing or am i nitpicking??

    how the hell do i reclaim my head?? he clearly doesnt give a **** about me an i harbour no thoughts wishes etc that well get back together, so what am i at, sorry i bet i wrecked anyone whos read this far head too, all awnsers welcome and thanks! xx


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 1,007 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I'm betting that posting this has helped a little :)

    It's not uncommon to go a bit "postal" if you bump unexpectedly into someone who broke your heart but it's also not uncommon to poke holes in a new relationship, the two don't have to be related. Having said that, you've only been seeing this guy (who's not your usual type) for a couple of weeks, you get this blast from the past and naturally you're comparing the two lads.

    Just RELAX. You're in a two-week-old relationship and you're wondering if you're "settling"? Spend a bit of time with your chap and see how it evolves ... don't finish it before it starts ;)


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