How do you know when a guys really fancies you????

LegacyUser

How do you know when a guys fancies you Is the any major signs to look out for??? I have a friend and we get on great but I don't know if its based on friendship or does he fancy me aswell

That_Guy

Whenever I'm interested in a girl I'll always make an excuse to make contact with her. Even if I know the answer I'll still ask the question.

For example if I needed to know the date of an assignment that's due in, I'd already know but I'll ask anyway and go on to random conversation. I'm weird like that. I don't have much confidence with girls I like and never really know what to say them.

I don't know. That's just me.

tony1kenobi

He fancies you.

That_Guy

tony1kenobi wrote: »

He fancies you.

To be fair she wouldn't have posted in the first place if she knew this already.

Zaph

tony1kenobi wrote: »

He fancies you.

If you've nothing constructive to add to the discussion it may be better for you to sit this one out.

Latchy

The eyes are the window to the soul OP .If his eyes are lit up and smiling when he looks at you , it's a good indication that the guy in question fancies you .

mardybum

It's so hard to tell! He'll seek you out in a crowd, find a reason to stand near you, find a reason to touch you (lint in your hair etc etc), laugh at your jokes, talk about you to other people, compliment you on your looks/taste in music/work ethic/ability to be late everyday ...

or if he's shy, he might go quiet when you're around, get tongue tied in your presence, blush when you speak to him, pointedly ignore you and talk to another girl, argue with you, laugh loudly at other people's jokes...

It's much easier to spot if it's the first type, if it's the second can be hard to know if he likes you or honestly doesn't at all. That is so frustrating.

That_Guy

mardybum wrote: »

Or if he's shy, he might go quiet when you're around, get tongue tied in your presence, blush when you speak to him,

I'd be one of these types of people. Myself and a lot of my friends are. Seems fairly common (unless my friends and I are socially inept). That's the first thing I'd look out for.

Carsinian Thau

mardybum wrote: »

It's so hard to tell! He'll seek you out in a crowd, find a reason to stand near you, find a reason to touch you (lint in your hair etc etc), laugh at your jokes, talk about you to other people, compliment you on your looks/taste in music/work ethic/ability to be late everyday ...

or if he's shy, he might go quiet when you're around, get tongue tied in your presence, blush when you speak to him, pointedly ignore you and talk to another girl, argue with you, laugh loudly at other people's jokes...

This advice is perfect. Although I'd like to point out that it's possible for both types of behaviours to exist.
In me, at least.

O.A.P

Do you fancy him?

LegacyUser

Yep big time I really fancy him!!!.... But he is a really polite and shy kind of guy... I couldn't ask him out on a date I would be shy that way, we get on brilliant we always make a effort when we are in each others company... we have a good chats and giggles

wylo

mardybum wrote: »

or if he's shy, he might go quiet when you're around, get tongue tied in your presence, blush when you speak to him, pointedly ignore you and talk to another girl, argue with you, laugh loudly at other people's jokes...

so true well spotted, but if there good friends already this isnt usually the case.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Yep big time I really fancy him!!!.... But he is a really polite and shy kind of guy... I couldn't ask him out on a date I would be shy that way, we get on brilliant we always make a effort when we are in each others company... we have a good chats and giggles

If he is into you and he cant work up the nerve to ask you the biggest favour you could do for him would be to ask. I know that isnt the best advice if you feel you cant do it but its my 0.02$

mardybum

Ah you're friends already! Sorry, missed that... Well in that case you can always try the time tested method of going out and gettin pissed together, have a dance and a snog and at that point its quite easy to start the 'you know I really like you' chat. Something about already having had the other persons hand on your bum while your kissing them makes it easier to say I like you

It's not the most responsible advice in the world, but it's how 90% of Irish couples start out!

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Yep big time I really fancy him!!!.... But he is a really polite and shy kind of guy... I couldn't ask him out on a date I would be shy that way, we get on brilliant we always make a effort when we are in each others company... we have a good chats and giggles

Life's too short for both of you to be too shy to ask one another out and let it pass. Seriously. Just go for it. The worst thing anyone can think about is 'What if?' - Just be that bit more daring and go for it. Worst that happens is he's not interested. Best outcome? You both like one another.

L31mr0d

Unregistered wrote: »

Yep big time I really fancy him!!!

Then start dropping hints. A good way to check is to put on something nice and when you meet up with him ask him if he thinks it looks nice on you. If he blushes and says it does, chances are he's into you. If he's shy you are going to have to give him opportunities to compliment you. Also, say you like a shirt of his and see if he wears it again the next time you's meet up.

LegacyUser

That is very true I might have to try that :-) we had a few "chats" already when we are pissed...." you know you look great tonight!!! You always make me laugh etc" but it never goes any further, I wonder will he ever make the first move or does it have to be me... Is there any way that I could get him to make the first move!!!

Terodil

L31mr0d wrote: »

Then start dropping hints. A good way to check is to put on something nice and when you meet up with him ask him if he thinks it looks nice on you. If he blushes and says it does, chances are he's into you. If he's shy you are going to have to give him opportunities to compliment you. Also, say you like a shirt of his and see if he wears it again the next time you's meet up.

Perfect advice. I really like this.

OP, don't be fixated on the first move, just go for it. Try out the above, then go for it. You have to jump!

What's the worst that could happen if you made the first move?
... he might say no. He might even stop being friends with you, true, but I guess that's remote.

What's the worst that could happen if you didn't make the first move?
... you might miss the one-in-a-lifetime chance and end up unhappy for the rest of your life.

Not hard to pick, eh?

Polleta

I had this 6 months ago with a guy I worked with... My friend noticed it on a night out when we were chatting/slagging each other about something silly.

I was out with her one night and she got me to find out where he and his friends are saying sure we'll all end up dancing anyway. We were pretty tipsy when we arrived and we forgot to find them so danced and flirted with guys downstairs before i looked at my phone to see a message from him looking for us.

Went and found them ended up chatting away to his friends that I'd never met before. Went off for a dance came back to find his friends had gone home and another guy from work had arrived.He said my friend who fancies you is gone home(at which point I was thinking of he definitely doesnt fancy me so) Then I spotted my friend talking to him while I was at the bar getting a round in. Totally knew what she was saying to him.

SHe then grabbed me for a chat and said listen you two obviously fancy each other even though you both are sketching around it. I left it but about an hour later we were at the bar together when we had a moment and a kiss and 6 months later we are still happy.

Moral of the story sometimes all you need is a helping hand. Is there a mutual friend who can casually ask him what is going on as you two look close to him/her?

It helps with two shy folk as we are anyway.