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A dilemma

  • 26-04-2009 9:04am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'll just get straight to the point. Basically am best friends with this guy, he considers me a best friend too, tells me occasionally that out of all the girls he knows, i'm firmly in his top girls. We get on amazingly. Said guy is going out however with a reasonably close friend of mine, obviously I never ever would do anything or say anything to him while they are going out. His girlf however is not really that into him, openly says it and pretty sure she has feelings for some guy she used to like and this other guy still really likes her. Basically I have always liked this guy and i'd say my friend knew that well before they started going out. in fact I know she did. Therefore, if things were to fizzle out between them, would it be completely unjust for me, having waited a good while after, to express interest in him again........?or what do u make of guys who tell girls these kind of things when in relationship with another person?Is it a sign of discontentment with his current relationship?When we were away in another country a while back, we ended up having a deep conversation and at one stage he just kissed me on the cheek. Not sure how to read that but i put it down to him wanting to show affection towards me who he considers his best friend?hmmmm mind a muddle, what do you all think?


Comments

  • #2
    bluecell99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 259 ✭✭bluecell99


    Wonder why he started going with your friend when the attraction was there between ye already?

    If he is unhappy then why does he remain with her?

    If she is stringing him along then he is at least compliant.Who is gaining anyting out of this?

    No,it would not be unfair of you to express an interest in him if he is free.But it sounds to me as if he is free in all but name.Whats preventing the final break on either side I wonder?

    just be careful.Protect yourself from hurt by being sure of your ground.No more second guessing.Its time for someobody to get off the fence.

    I feel in the situation that you describe however that its up to him.If real feelings are there for you then he should not need any prodding.


  • #3
    AngryBadger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    Is it not possible that he values you as a friend and nothing more?

    Honestly I think you're seeing what you want to see here. All of Bluecell99's questions are very good ones, if he's romantically interested in you why is he going out with someone else? Even if she's not into him, presumably he is into her if he's still with her.

    By all means if they break up I'd see no problem at all in broaching this with him, however based on what you're saying I wouldn't be getting my hopes up.


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