Convince girlfriend to have a threesome?

LegacyUser

I have been with my current girlfriend for just over a year. She is very attractive and i love her to pieces. She is very good to me and i treat her right.

she asked me the other day what my ultimate fantasy is - now i didnt admit it then, but my ultimate fantasy would be her and one of her best friends.

She says she is a little bi curious, and she often says her friend (the same one i want in the threesome) is really hot! And i agree, and ive seen pictures of them looking, well a little intimate from a couple of years ago. I would love to ask her would she be interested...

Her friend is very attractive as well, not as much (of course) as my current gf but a good looker. So far as i know she has a boyfriend at the moment but she has cheated on him before, and they are very on the rocks at the moment, and apparently, it wont last another month (apparently...). She does seem like the type that would be up for it though...

how do i breach this subject? anyone with similar experience?

prinz

S&S Forum, or the internet. I love her to pieces......... she's just not enough.

Lillylilly

"Convince" is a strong word when talking about sexual relations, I'm sure you would want her to want to do it as opposed to feel pressured into doing it.

It also sounds fairly dodgy (in my opinion) that you already have someone in mind, let alone that it's one of her friends. The act of inviting someone else into your sexual relationship is a HUGE thing, but the fact that you are essentially attracted enough to one of her friends to want to have sex with her is a big red flag!

I would imagine that even if your girlfriend is open enough to consider a threesome, that she'd be fairly f*cked off that you want her mate to be involved!!!

biko

This could end in tears, unless she brings it up first. Imo.

smileysurfer

Lillylilly wrote: »

"Convince" is a strong word when talking about sexual relations, I'm sure you would want her to want to do it as opposed to feel pressured into doing it.

It also sounds fairly dodgy (in my opinion) that you already have someone in mind, let alone that it's one of her friends. The act of inviting someone else into your sexual relationship is a HUGE thing, but the fact that you are essentially attracted enough to one of her friends to want to have sex with her is a big red flag!

I would imagine that even if your girlfriend is open enough to consider a threesome, that she'd be fairly f*cked off that you want her mate to be involved!!!

+1
Id thread cautiously with this one as I have the feeling its going to end in tears!

ibarelycare

That sounds like fun

HOWEVER you need to think of the consequences of having a threesome with a close friend of your girlfriend before you broach the subject. How would your girlfriend feel watching you being intimate with her best friend? She may have her own fantasies and curiosities about her friend but that may not mean that she wants you involved. Feelings of insecurity and jealousy are likely to rear their heads during AND after the act. It may seem like a hot idea right now, but how will the dynamics between the 3 of you be once the fun is over?

Just have a serious think about it. It could ruin their friendship/your relationship/both. You need to first ask your gf if she'd seriously consider having a threesome. Definitely don't bring up her friend. How would you feel if she basically asked you if she could shag your best mate?!

If you both decide it's something you want then I suggest going out on the pull one night and trying to find someone you both are attracted to who would be up for it. No strings, just fun. A lot less messy.

Faith

From your post, I got this: "I fancy my girlfriend's friend and want to shag her. However, so my girlfriend won't dump me, how can I convince her to join in?". It's the fact that you have a specific girl in mind that sets off alarm bells for me. I'd tread very carefully on this if I were you. Maybe mention that you like the idea of a threesome in a general sense, and see what her reaction is.

LegacyUser

well i dont think it has to be her - i just singled her out in my mind cause i know she also likes her and i am fairly sure in a sexual way, and yes she is a good looker but i dont want it to end our relationship or make things awkward.

And its not convince, its more suggest. but how do i approach the subject without it making it seem like i just want more than her. Granted its a way of having more fun, but its her i love and i wouldnt do something like that if she felt uncomfortable with it i wouldnt want to go through to it.

kayos

prinz wrote: »

S&S Forum, or the internet. I love her to pieces......... she's just not enough.

Not understanding that post at all but any way.

First off you should not have to convince your gf to do anything. She is either interested doing something or she's not. You trying to convince her is just a bad idea. By all means talk to her and see how she feels about the idea but do not for the love of the flying spagetti monster bring her friend into the conversation.

A 3some is one thing, a 3some with a friend is a totally different thing. You bringing it up with "I want your mate as the 3rd person" is a very(to the power of infinity) bad idea.

Just having a 3some can end in tears for you or her or both. How would you feel if your gf decided actually she likes the 3rd person more and wants to be in a relationship with them or decides she prefers girls? This can also be reversed in terms of you developing feelings for the 3rd person. Make that 3rd person a friend and you have a whole new range of relationships and friendships that are at risk.

Ask yourself this how would you feel if your gf asked you to have a 3some with one of your male friends?

star-pants

Have you asked your gf what her sexual fantasy is? Might be a start.

3somes don't always live up to what you think they are, unless the relationship is very trusting/open etc, things will get messy. What if you fall for this other girl? what if she falls for you? what if your gf decides at the last minute she won't do it and ye end up in an arguement? Is it worth risking everything?

As someone else said, you can't 'convince' her to do something. She has to really want it. Tread very carefully

shellyboo

You need to, first of all, see what she thinks of threesomes, in the most vague terms ever.

Then, you need to see if she would ever consider one in real life, ever.

Then you need to forget about ever having one with her best friend... because some things are more important than hot sex, and friendhsip is one of those things. Too many variables there, could go horribly, horribly wrong, and destroy their friendship for life. Don't even suggest it to her.

Cecil Mor

Agreed, you should start by asking what her fantasy is before suggesting the 3some.

However if she turns out to be cool with the idea what happens when she suggests one of your best friends??:D:D:D

prinz

kayos wrote: »

Not understanding that post at all but any way.

Well it's not really a relationship issue is it? Should really be seeking advice in a different forum or on the internet.... and second part, well that's just personal opinion.

Latchy

kayos wrote: »

Ask yourself this how would you feel if your gf asked you to have a 3some with one of your male friends?

It might be a fantasy for a lot of people and some men might find it a turn on to see their partner with another man or womon ,stranger or not .But if sombody doesn't like the idea of their GF wanting part in a 3some with one of his male friends then they can hardly expect her to agree to same for him . .....imo