What is this situation?

LegacyUser

I have a 4yr old child with my ex, we work in the best interest for our child and it works well i'm happy to say, he is a great father.

...now under the surface, we have got closer since he split up with his girlfriend of 1 1/2 year (i didn't even know they were together until a few weeks before they split). We are getting a bit too close and i'm quite unsure of what is going on, i admit i still love him but i can live without him (if that makes sense), he was comparing me to his ex and complimenting me, taking me to places if i need it and i can genuinely see that he is more interested in me.
he talked about his ex and she rang him while i was there and i felt like i was going to be sick,i felt used as something to fill the void of her not being with him. but i think their relationship is over now for good.

i confronted him about this stuff that had been said and done, and said that i can't deal with it anymore and i decided to close the book on that one.

he came over today and i was ready to go out for the a few drinks with the girls and he asked me if i was going on a date and i said that i was going out with my girl-friend.
i then text him to see how my little one was getting on and he asked again did i 'pull' , why is he continuing to keep asking this?? im ignoring these kinds of questions and keeping my distance, mainly because i don't want to get hurt, on the other hand, i feel like that we are really getting to know each other, more than we ever have and it could turn into something really valuable.

i'm torn in two and don't know what to do! am i over thinking or do i just need to put my woman brain away and see how things go??!

tony1kenobi

inlove wrote: »

i just need to put my woman brain away and see how things go??!

There ya go missus.

zxcvbnm1

if he is interested i reckon at some pojnt in the near future he will be a little less ambiguous about his feelings.

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Thaedydal

bambera

No offence, but it sounds to me like he's on the rebound.

Dont rush into anything, give it time. Remember the reasons why you split in the first place, are they still valid?

However, if you do decide to get together again i would suggest to keep it from your child untill things get more serious, you don't want to confuse him just yet.

ManOfMystery

He could be on the rebound....


... or he could simply have gone out with someone else and saw that the grass is not always greener over there. Perhaps he's realising now that he wants and needs you in his life.

In a perfect world we would all know what we want in a partner anyway, but sometimes you only realise this when you've been with the wrong person. He could be in that situation.

Regardless of his intentions and motives, it sounds like right now your relationship is good so just try and enjoy that and see where it goes - it's certainly good for your child to have 2 parents who get along like that.