Come come come again.

LegacyUser

Here goes.....

I'm with my current boyfriend almost a year. We are madly in alove and plan on settling down together.

We are both in our late twenties and have a good sex life, probably not as much as I'd like as my sex drive is very high, but More often than not he keeps me extremely satisfied;)

My problem is this: I have always very much enjoyed sex but have not ever come easily, be it orally but particularly penetratively. However with this boyfriend I have multiple orgasms; it's almost ridiculous. Not only that, but I come ridiculously easily and initally very quickly. It's like the female version of premature ejaculation and it's so embarrassing. I even came the first time we had sex, which for me was really really bizarre.

He thinks it's great, but to go from rarely orgasming to this is ridiculous. I know some women will wonder why I'm complaining but really, I am so unnerved by it. Is this a problem to do with me? Or is it the case that his shape just suits me really well and that makes me come multiply??

If anybody could shed some light I would be so grateful, it's almost become a joke between us now.

Thanks.

LegacyUser

I doubt this is a problem in a physical sense, I think you should just enjoy it!!! when having sex maybe u should concentrate on getting him aroused first then when he is close you can both come together. And don't be embarasssed about it!!!!

Wibbs

Yep enjoy it. It sounds like you're very physically compatible and that's a good thing:) The fact that as a woman you can keep going after the first is also a bonus. As unregistered wrote, rev his engine first and just go with it.

LegacyUser

I always make the effort to 'rev' his engine and we do come together reasonably often.

thing is, he gets a huge kick out of the effect it has on me so goes out of his way to keep going as long as he can and make me come as much as he can.

I shouldn't complain, but it's very disconcerting to go from having difficulty coming to this situation. We are compatible on a lot of levels, so maybe that's a factor, hoever having said that, plenty of my girlfriends are in happy longterm relationships and I don't think they have the same problem as me.

Is it possible for a woman to come prematurely???

deanswift

I think you hit the nail on the head, so to speak, when you said his shape suits you, as you are being aroused by his contact with your G spot which may not have happened with other partners....a mon avis ar aon nos!!!!!!!!
Relax, let it happen and enjoy.
Many women never experience what you are enjoying!

magconn

ooh, can i borrow him??????

Latchy

This reminds me of the womon who made the news recently because she had some condition which made her have multiple orgasims every day ,without even trying ......like she didn't have to do anything .:)

It didn't matter who she went to bed with or what they got up to ,she was self sufficiant .Dont think you have that type OP but perhaps a milder version were a man is required .:)

Wibbs

EireGirl wrote: »

I always make the effort to 'rev' his engine and we do come together reasonably often.

thing is, he gets a huge kick out of the effect it has on me so goes out of his way to keep going as long as he can and make me come as much as he can.

I shouldn't complain, but it's very disconcerting to go from having difficulty coming to this situation. We are compatible on a lot of levels, so maybe that's a factor, hoever having said that, plenty of my girlfriends are in happy longterm relationships and I don't think they have the same problem as me.

Is it possible for a woman to come prematurely???

Hang on. Youve gone from few enough orgasms to a guaranteed happy hit, indeed multiples with this guy and this is a problem. Some people are never satisfied. Honestly, I mean how is this an issue? You love him, he loves you, you're compatible and you have an incredible sexual connection to boot? Honestly what part of your mind considers this an issue. Repeat after me; This is NOT a problem". BTW it's not that uncommon either. FFS enjoy it and stop looking for issue where there are none. Jesus. And no this is not me being insensitive or any of that guff, but c'mon.....

Wibbs

magconn off topic posts are against this forums charter. Please read it thanks.

nomorebadtown

my gf is like this and i really really dont see the problem.;)

Nevyn

Why is this a problem if you are having multiples rather then just one ?
Seriously being multiorgasmic ftw, mind you have may have to find how many is enough
for you and not over load your system so you are a complete quivering wreck or manage
to pass out, yes those things can happen so careful you don't over load your nervous system
but other then that, happy days surely.

Why is it ridiculous ?

Or is it just that it is strange to you and you don't have a common frame of reference among your friends ?

A persons sexuality is a constantly evolving thing, improving your pelvic floor muscles
and being aware of what happens when you orgasm can lead eventually to orgasm control so that you can
delay them to a point if that is something you wish to do,
but be warned that can leads to either a cluster of them like firecrackers going off
or an incredibly intense one which can leave you dizzy, unable to think, forgetting breath
and as I already mentioned possible passing out.

Why are you so concerned, it is that it makes having an orgasm some how less special ?

themadchef

So, you're going out a year. You're both happy, and the sex is the most amazing sex of your whole life....

The only problem i can see is if you're subconsciously worrying what if things don't work out and i never find this again.

If that's the case, stop worrying. Live for now, enjoy it. Don't look for problems where there aren't any.

Can you come prematurely? Of course you can... but in you're case it doesnt seem to be a problem as there are lots more to follow . Enjoy! Go with it. See where it takes you.

Never base yourself on someone else's perception of normal. We're all truly individual.

LegacyUser

seriously you are one very very lucky lady!!! im soo jealous!!!!

LegacyUser

Wibbs wrote: »

Hang on. Youve gone from few enough orgasms to a guaranteed happy hit, indeed multiples with this guy and this is a problem. Some people are never satisfied. Honestly, I mean how is this an issue? You love him, he loves you, you're compatible and you have an incredible sexual connection to boot? Honestly what part of your mind considers this an issue. Repeat after me; This is NOT a problem". BTW it's not that uncommon either. FFS enjoy it and stop looking for issue where there are none. Jesus. And no this is not me being insensitive or any of that guff, but c'mon.....

I know I know.

It's just weird to have gone from zero to hero on this. I mean I dated a guy for three years and didn't ever come from penetration, in fact prior to meeting this man I rarely if ever came from penetration, and now this......it's great of course, but it is bizarre to me.

And it does bother me that I come before him, usually a number of times. I almost feel uncomfortable, even though he thinks it's great.

But as you say, I guess I'm lucky; maybe I jsut can't believe my luck really

That_Guy

Maybe he's just good at his job.

Nevyn

Hang on it's not a guys 'job' to give a girl an orgasm, she is not passive as this happens it takes two, and once you become multiorgasmic chances are you will be able to achieve such a state on your own or with someone else, but that shouldn't be a concern if you are happy with your relationship.

BroomBurner

OP, instead of worrying about how great things are now, think about how not great things used to be, and how much of an improvement sex is for you.

Btw, it's not abnormal either

LegacyUser

OP... whats the problem????

I have the same "issue" (not really an issue tbh) with my bf. I just put it down to us being a good match.

A sex therapist was on Ray Darcy's show today and was talking about how women need to completely relax to orgasm and more often than not, if a woman can't orgasm it's down to her not being relaxed as opposed to the man not doing the right things. So maybe it's also a psychological thing, you're completely lcomfortable in letting go with him therefore open to having multiple orgasms??? Just a thought.

Madame Razz

To be fair to the OP, so many of us go through life enduring bad sex and or not 100% compatible sex a lot, so that when we are confronted with something 'perfect' it's hard to grasp.

So it's all very well us saying 'Whats the problem here', but in truth, if you, like the OP have only been having good sex and rarely coming, or maybe having good sex but with the wrong person and suddenly you are having incredible sex and coming often with somebody you love deeply, well, I can see why one might be unnerved or thrown by that. Compatibility is an amazing thing, and is pretty mind blowing in a lot of ways; as the OP appears to be finding out;).

OP, I suggest you accept it, lie back, and enjoy it. You and your partner are obviously just very much meant to be, and there's nothing at all wrong with that. I hope things continue to go so well for the two of you.

MR

stevelknievel

Just to give the male POV on this, we love to see (and hear) a woman...react to what we're doing. Seriously, it's a mjor turn on and we love it almost as much as you do. No need to feel awkward or bad about it. I can guarantee he loves it too.

thescruff

Eirgirl your orgasm happens between your ears, your pelvic muscles are extremely relaxed when this guy enters you ....as they say in france..pas de problem.
Remember enjoy, i think u said you were very young....sadly your body will not always be this responsive.

messygirl

i know of a girl who was like you, never really came but then with her new boyfriend all he needs to do is come near here and she has one. its not unusual, the only problem is if ye ever break up and then you end up comparing every other lover to your ex

in the meantime im so jealous

Joey the lips

I heard of a cream some men can buy to delay ejectualtion, not that I need it:D

Is is possible this would work on women to slow them down, appreciate the position of the clit etc but perhaps the never endings can be numbed a little

I have to say but if you dont want to climax so much why dont you just use foreplay etc and massage or you can massage him etc you get the jist... Avoid what stimulates you