Loser

LegacyUser

I'm 24 unemployed, have been unemployed since i graduated from college. Have no girlfriend and most of my friends do, those who don't are much younger and living the college life. Im now on the dole. I'll be 25 soon, and dunno how my life got this way. I used to half a nice girlfriend but we broke up, and now she has a great life without me, although we are still in touch after a year broken up, im always a dick to her.

Is this how good my life going to get? anyone else feel like me?

bluecell99

Maybe the clue is in your own words"being a dick to her".Why?Like treating people like this?

You wonder why you are on your own?How about less of the self pity and trying to make a few changes.Loads of people are unemployed.

Ever heard of helping others?It could lead to a whole new you and fill your days productively.Yoo are 24 and hopefully in good health.Get over yourself.

Go into a hospital and take a walk around .See the pain and terrible suffering in there and you will come out and go down on your knees in thanks for what you have.

Stop navel gazing and get out there .Stop the whining and moaning and count your blessings.Change has to come from within.

Be a man .

LegacyUser

I know a few people in the same situation as yourself alright. Not a nice place to be in and in the current bad situation of the economy it will prove more difficult to try and get out of the rut you have gotten into.

In saying that there are lots of ways to change such as being nice to people instead of treating them like a 'dick'.

Could you go on a FAS course or scheme just to get you out and doing something, I know it's probably not what you imagined or aspire to do but it would get you into a routine. Join some night classes? Travel perhaps teaching english, i'm sure you would be in a good position seen as though you have a degree.

Sephiroth_dude

could'nt have said it better myself

That_Guy

Wallowing in self pity doesn't help things mate. Times are tough trying to find a job at the moment but try look for a FAS course or something to tide you over.

Get out there and do something about this slump you seem to be in. Nobody can help you except yourself.

Dudess

Maybe you're not making enough of an effort yourself? You don't seem very motivated or positive. Now I know it can be hard to motivate yourself when you are unemployed, but... since you graduated? Seeing as you refer to those guys you know who are in college as "much younger" I presume you graduated about three years ago at this stage? If so, that's pretty bad going. Whatever about now, there was LOADS of work up to about 18 months ago, if not less.

It really does seem like you're just wallowing, waiting for things to happen for you. Life's not like that. Bluecell is right - you have to get out there and change these things and not stay sitting there wondering what went wrong. You just arsed away the time - that's what went wrong. Take responsibility for it yourself rather than trying to find some outside influence that caused it all to go wrong.

And you and your girlfriend broke up (who did the breaking up?) - so? That happens to nearly everyone. You say you're being "a dick to her" as if it's inflicted on you - again, YOU'RE the one who's doing this.

As for "is this how good life is going to get?" - that sort of defeatist attitude might be understandable if you were 45, stuck in a joyless marriage and in debt up to your ears... you're not even 25, no ties and you think that's the way life will always be? Craziness! You have COLOSSAL scope to change things - jeez, there are guys twice your age who would KILL to be in your position. Ok, it sucks being unemployed and it's gonna be hard to find work now, but at least you don't have a huge mortgage, children, huge debts. Seeing as you're unemployed for so long though, it strikes me you're not that bothered about getting a job.

Motivation seems to be your problem - start exercising. It makes you feel good and gives you a bit of "get up and go". Go to a recruitment agency for tips on how to do up a good CV - it's free. Start applying for anything out there you feel you'd be suited to. Lidl and Aldi seem to be taking on lots of people. Forget about being fussy about what job you do - you can't be fussy at the moment. And just stop wasting your life, ffs. It really doesn't seem like you have that much to be negative about...