Should I reply to his text

clones1980

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055499079

The above links refers.

Sorry folks but i really need a good telling off because i am so close to replying and i need ya all to tell me to cop myself on.

I got a text from himself saying "hi, i know we aint talking anymore but been thinking of ya. Just hope all is well etc"

I know it means nothing but i feel like im about to cave in a text him back.

easyeason3

Nope don't text him back at all regardless how you feel.
He sounds like an asshole & I personally wouldn't waste my time, energy or credit pandering to his ego.
Delete the text & find someone to flirt/ kiss/ whatever. Your confidence, when it comes to this guy, is probably shot to pieces so go out & enjoy yourself.

Silverfish

Read that whole thread again.

Right now.

Then delete the text, delete his number, and don't reply.

chickenhawk

Don't text him back!!

He'll just treat you badly and you'll be miserable again!! Do you really want another thread saying that he was just using you for sex, which in my opinion this sounds like he is.

Delete his text and his number. Go out with your friends and forget him.

dreamer_ire

Ring your best friend and read the text to them.... then tell them you are thinking of texting the guy back.... then sit back and listen to your friend tell you how daft you would be and how he/she had to pick up the pieces (twice, I think you said) before. Then put yourself in their shoes and think how would you feel about a friend who repeatedly allowed themselves to be used by a guy.

I'm suggesting you do all this cos you are obviously very tempted to text him back and listening to your head rather than your heart can be very difficult at times.

Good luck OP... be strong and it will benefit you in the long run *s

Bottle_of_Smoke

Reply. There's probably a good chance he's changed his ways and wants to have a loving relationship with you.....

Well obviously thats never going to happen. Delete him from facebook or whatever you use and stop replying to anything he sends you. Work on your self esteem.

trowelled

Do not under any circumstances text him back. He's only gonna do it to you all over again. Why do that to yourself? Delete his number from your phone and forget about him, he's not worth it!

estar

what do you think will happen?

he will finally realise after you reply - jeeze, i am going to get back with her and treat her really well. i have been so wrong. i DO actually want to go out with her properly even though every other time i havent wanted to.

OR

great shes replying to me, i still have her on a hook, this one isnt toeing the line, so ill keep this other one dangling again, just in case, and sure i might want easy sex sometime, so i better keep the lines of communication open.

the text doesnt even read like he wants a reply. what are you going to reply.

hey there - want to come over and walk all over me again soon?

sorry to be harsh. a relationship is about mutual respect and getting needs met. he isnt fulfilling your need to have a friend or have a relationship. your real friend wouldnt have repeatedly slept with you knowing you wanted more and knowing you were hoping for more, and knowing he would never give it to you.

this has happened to you because you dont love yourself enough to insist on getting your needs met, and on refusing anything else. you are happy with sloppy seconds because you think thats the best you can do. maybe you think this guy is the only person who can make you happy, or the best guy you can ever be with, la de la de la.

but on a cost benefit analysis, this is costing you far more than you are getting out of it.

its self destructive to do anything but laugh at the pathetic and lame nature of that text, and then sigh as you remember how you USED to respond to that kind of crap before you grew up and got sense.

live your life and move on.

entropi

clonesbabe wrote: »

I got a text from himself saying "hi, i know we aint talking anymore

This is the part you should focus on tbh. He cuts you out of his life when it suits him, and when he has nobody left he turns to you as you've let him back in before...honestly he is a total asshole and not worth your time.

Delete his number, change yours and DO NOT REPLY to the text, he needs to learn a lesson in respecting people's emotions and not being a complete moron.

estar

this is like leaving the door open with your wallet on the table and then when your wallet is stolen posting BLOODY THIEVES

fool me once, fool me twice, fool me three times, its my own fault. thats my rule.

this guy will never ever give you what you want. its gamblers fallacy to think anything else. you have invested so much in this, and desperately want it to all mean something.

sadly, cut your losses, cash in your chips and find someone deserving of the devotion, as this guy is a poker shark pretending to be a confused beginner who just "happens" to always get what he wants from you, its never his fault, as he told you he wanted to be your friend.

but then he sleeps with you all the time, when he knows that you are going to be hurt by it and are in love with him. but all that isnt his fault.

it isnt because he was "honest", but any decent human being operating on an open and honest basis who knows what being a friend is would want to be involved in this scenario, so he isnt your friend.

feel free to learn the hard way again a few more times though.

Otis Driftwood

Defo reply.








with a ha ha ha ha ha,you had your chance,ha ha ha ha ha.

RacoonQueen

nedtheshed wrote: »

Defo reply.








with a ha ha ha ha ha,you had your chance,ha ha ha ha ha.

This, please do this.

Miss Fluff

estar wrote: »

what do you think will happen?

he will finally realise after you reply - jeeze, i am going to get back with her and treat her really well. i have been so wrong. i DO actually want to go out with her properly even though every other time i havent wanted to.

OR

great shes replying to me, i still have her on a hook, this one isnt toeing the line, so ill keep this other one dangling again, just in case, and sure i might want easy sex sometime, so i better keep the lines of communication open.

the text doesnt even read like he wants a reply. what are you going to reply.

hey there - want to come over and walk all over me again soon?

sorry to be harsh. a relationship is about mutual respect and getting needs met. he isnt fulfilling your need to have a friend or have a relationship. your real friend wouldnt have repeatedly slept with you knowing you wanted more and knowing you were hoping for more, and knowing he would never give it to you.

this has happened to you because you dont love yourself enough to insist on getting your needs met, and on refusing anything else. you are happy with sloppy seconds because you think thats the best you can do. maybe you think this guy is the only person who can make you happy, or the best guy you can ever be with, la de la de la.

but on a cost benefit analysis, this is costing you far more than you are getting out of it.

its self destructive to do anything but laugh at the pathetic and lame nature of that text, and then sigh as you remember how you USED to respond to that kind of crap before you grew up and got sense.

live your life and move on.

What a spot on reply Estar.:)

OP read the above advice and read back over your old thread. I can completely understand how you would have gotten butterflies receiving that text and the overwhelming impulse to respond. But think very carefully about what it means to respond. He is merely keeping you on the subs bench for when his current victim is relegated and he needs an easy lay. Not implying you are easy OP but to him he knows from past experience that all he has to do is click his fingers and you will come running.....yet again. Remember that the need to reply will subside so DON'T! Delete the text and go and meet up friends today. You will already feel stronger if you do that. You sound like a nice chick and you owe it to yourself to be involved with someone who won't dump you and pick you up again when he feels like it.

LegacyUser

i used to be in a similar position to you. this guy who was really a dickhead but of course i was amd about used to text me when he wanted sex and he was good at putting on the act of liking me too so i used to go running every time,think this went on for about 2 years.eventually i decided enough was enough and around the same time i did he just stopped texting.now i feel sick when i see him cos i made such a fool out of myself for him.dont answer the text or else do just to tell him to f**k off!!!

idontknowmyname

Don't reply- it will just mean more heartache for you in the long run....believe me, was in a similar situation recently. As a previous poster said, delete his number, delete him from all social networking sites, only thing to stop yourself contacting him when you're feeling down or sorry for yourself.

cafecolour

If you call your mobile carrier and basically say he's a sex pest (true enough) and you need his number blocked. They generally will.

Giblet

He's been dumped and he wants sex, the end.

SarahSassy

If you want to show him and prove to yourself that you have little self respect and no self control then text him back.

He is using you and you are letting him - if you reply that it...

He is only a man/ human and far from a perfect one by the sounds of it. Take him down off the pedestal and grow some self respect.