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Separated but living together

dianaxxx · 2009-04-16 19:32:37

Hi , Im going through a breakup in my marriage but we are still living under the same roof, we have kids and cant afford to live apart at the moment My soon to be ex is sleeping downstairs. its definitely over on my behalf, but i think he still think theres still hope. he says he loves me but by his actions i dont think he…

16-04-2009 7:32pm

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Hi , Im going through a breakup in my marriage but we are still living under the same roof, we have kids and cant afford to live apart at the moment My soon to be ex is sleeping downstairs. its definitely over on my behalf, but i think he still think theres still hope. he says he loves me but by his actions i dont think he really does. I think we have just drifted apart . its more of a friendship just left between us. Things are civil with us but really ive always been the one to give more in the relationship to give more, id appreciate some advice , thanks a mill

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#2 16-04-2009 7:49pm

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dianaxxx wrote: »

Hi , Im going through a breakup in my marriage but we are still living under the same roof, we have kids and cant afford to live apart at the moment My soon to be ex is sleeping downstairs. its definitely over on my behalf, but i think he still think theres still hope. he says he loves me but by his actions i dont think he really does. I think we have just drifted apart . its more of a friendship just left between us. Things are civil with us but really ive always been the one to give more in the relationship to give more, id appreciate some advice , thanks a mill

I think you should try here

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=127

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#3 16-04-2009 7:50pm

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dianaxxx, I have moved your post from Newbies & FAQ to the Personal Issues forum.

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#4 16-04-2009 8:04pm

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If you guys have to live in the same house it's going to be tough for a while - and you will have to explain something to the children.
Do you think it's definitely over or have you tried counselling?

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#5 16-04-2009 8:08pm

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dianaxxx wrote: »

Hi , Im going through a breakup in my marriage but we are still living under the same roof

For the sake of yourself, himself, and the kids, couldn't one of you stay with family or friends even for a while? This situation is bound to be causing a lot of friction and tension in the house which can only adversely affect the kids.

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#6 16-04-2009 8:20pm

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Some times such arrangements can work, I live with the Dad of my kids in the family home
and we have not been a couple for nearly 4 years at this stage. Thankfully it is a 4 bedroom house and we all have our own rooms and we were able to sort out house rules and come to certain agreements.

It maybe possible for you and your ex, I suggest you try to get into mediation as soon as possible.

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