My sister and my ex

LegacyUser

I was out at the weekend and i met my ex. I was very upset when we broke up and my sister was there to help me through it. At the end of the night i seen them sitting together and asked what was going on. He promised me nothing happened, that he was minding her because she was very drunk. So i thought to myself "oh isnt he so gud..". After my sister left he started tellin me how much he missed me so i ended up going back to his house. We wern't with each other, just chatted for ages and it was lovely to talk to him. The next day i was talkin to my friend on the phone and she told me she had seen them holding hands in the nightclub so i asked my sister was she with him. She admitted that she was and said sorry at the time but didnt talk to me since or make any effort to make things right. I feel so angry by what they did. she knew how much i liked him. shes my sister and best friend. what should i do?

liger

Unregistered wrote: »

I feel so angry by what they did. she knew how much i liked him. shes my sister and best friend. what should i do?

At least she had the guts to tell you the truth, He just tried to bed you after getting with your sister. That should tell you something about the different types of people your dealing with.

Thank your sister for doing you a favour and being honest and dont speak to him again.

Pinky Pixie

In my opinion your sister is a cow...I'm sorry but she clearly has no remorse. How she could do that to you is beyond me, drunk or not drunk! I think too many girls use drink as an excuse to act on things they are not brave enough when sober. You need to tell her exactly how you feel about it, instead of bottling it up.

With regards to the ex....he is a loser. You're well rid of that moran. If he really missed you he wouldn't console himself in your sister, like he did. You need to find yourself someone with a heart.

I go by the rule....don't look back they are called ex's for a reason

LegacyUser

You aren't going out with him any more, so there was nothing wrong with what your sister did.

I think the guy did show his true colours though. If you're going to be made at anyone, be mad at him.

LegacyUser

So, in summary, you own your Ex and have the right to determine who he's entitled to be with?

And, you have the right to determine who your sister is with?


How about maturing a bit and moving on. If the man wasn't for you, then don't be such an idiot as to interfere with others who might just be compatible with each other.

prinz

She's your sister and best friend... he's your ex and a bit of a sleazy foo'. Tough choice there. Hmmmm. What will I do?? How about you consider yourself lucky and move on.

TheIronyMaiden

OP, you've every right to be annoyed at your sister! As far as this you can't determine who people go out with lark goes, sure that's true to a certain extent but for gods sake, there are some lines you don't cross! At the same time she is your sister, just let her know you're annoyed by what she did and move on with it.

Oh, and completely forget about the ex. He's definitely not worth it.

Oh The Humanity

Blood is thicker than water, read her the riot act and blank him.

See that she blanks him too, leave her in no doubt you dont sh1t on your own doorstep.

Katgurl

Oh The Humanity wrote: »

Blood is thicker than water, read her the riot act and blank him.

See that she blanks him too, leave her in no doubt you dont sh1t on your own doorstep.

Absolutely tell her off, she was way outta line. I am also close with my sister & wouldn't dream of doign that in a million years. If for whatever reasons I did find myself in that position i would be grovelling & doing whatever it took to make it up to her. he's not worth falling out over long-term (he's a dick & should be completely forgotten about) but she should be showing you support.

seriously, some of the replies here shock me. even a friend wouldn't do that & its clearly not completely done & dusted if you were back in his house afterwards.

He's a piece of **** by the way.

Nervous Wreck

Unregistered wrote: »

So, in summary, you own your Ex and have the right to determine who he's entitled to be with?

And, you have the right to determine who your sister is with?

The OP didn't say anything like that. The sister and ex have every right to be together but the OP has every right to be very p1ssed off about it.

OP, as the more intelligent replies have already said, you should forget the ex, explain to your sister how you feel, forgive her, and move on.

star-pants

Unregistered wrote: »

So, in summary, you own your Ex and have the right to determine who he's entitled to be with?
And, you have the right to determine who your sister is with?

How about *you* mature and see that thinks aren't always black and white.
Her sister could at least have respect for her and not go kissing an ex that she's still heartbroken over, and then lie about it.

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

OP, as the more intelligent replies have already said, you should forget the ex, explain to your sister how you feel, forgive her, and move on.

Agreed - leave the ex to himself and let your sister know how you feel, but do move on from it. She'll be your sister a lot longer.

Kimia

Oh lord I would be raging with the pair of them. Probably more annoyed with my sister because I'm closer to her and her betrayal would hurt more.

OP serious bad form out of the 2 of them. Never speak to him again, ever.

Tell your sister how betrayed you feel and that you expected more from her, and see if you can forgive her. I doubt you'll ever trust her 100% again though I wouldn't.

And to those who said 'they are both single, it's a free country' I say BS to you all. I can only imagine how hurt and humiliated the OP must be feeling.

Kimia

Unregistered wrote: »

So, in summary, you own your Ex and have the right to determine who he's entitled to be with?

And, you have the right to determine who your sister is with?


How about maturing a bit and moving on. If the man wasn't for you, then don't be such an idiot as to interfere with others who might just be compatible with each other.

Horrible, insensitive and offensive post. How could you say that, have you no empathy?

LegacyUser

Kimia wrote: »

Horrible, insensitive and offensive post. How could you say that, have you no empathy?

The OP has absolutely no right, whatsoever, to tell either her sister or her ex who they can or can not be with. Does she expect all around her to ask for permission to be with someone?


Really, the OP needs to accept things and move on.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Does she expect all around her to ask for permission to be with someone?

OP here. Obviously I dont. thats the most ridiclous thing to say! lets see how you would feel if you were in the same situation, doubt you'd be shaking their hands wishing them luck!! GET REAL!!

As for all those with a bit of common sense who posted, thank you. very good advice. I know without a doubt i wil make up with my sister eventually, i'm just angry at the minute and it'l juz take time to get the trust back. As for him, i will definately never be spaking to that waste of space again. As someone posted he showed his true colors and is a complete moran. I couldnt agree more.