Tired of it all (skip first post)

LegacyUser

iv been wit my girlfriend well now ex 4 years. an all we ever do is fight i dont think we have alot in common and she is very childish in her own way. but its only wit me and her mother. the last year has bee torture because this time last year we broke up and we were broke up about a month and i started seein a girl didn mean alot to me it was just to pass the time i was tryin to figer out if the ex was worth going back to or would we all ways fight and when we fight it get very aggressive so any way this girl i was seenin made a big deal out of me and her to let the ex find out she did and was really hurt and i was hurt because i tryed my best not to hurt her she then told me she was happy coz now so didn need to feel guilty from been wit a fella and i said wat u mean she said i was at a party a week ago and i meet a fella i said whos was he coz i thought i new wat i wanted but then she said that and it hurt me and we started talking agen coz i i though if it hurt me it must be wrong any way we got back and we fought ever week broke up got back broke up got back she wouldin let it go that i was seenin a girl when we were broke up so that was the end of last summer we got back and were still fighting about it well up till last week when we broke up iv told this story to so many people and iv got u dont need her ur to nice a lad for her and all this but then im saying maybe im giving her a bad rap like i do love this girl but she is so much hard work like the type of hard work that shouldin have to have in a relationship now were broke up and iv started talk to a girl and she really likes me she has a boyfriend and he dosin give her any attention and she has fallin for me she has told me but i have that wit ever girl i talk to or start talkin to but im thinking is it just an act wit me am i all the time the ex says i am or is it her am i just going to go true life messin wit girls heads coz i cant be happy or have i just not found wat im lookin for

Zaph

OP, if you're going to post in this thread again could you kindly drop the text speak, it's not permitted in this forum. Some punctuation and paragraphs would also be a good idea, because as it stands that post is illegible as far as I'm concerned and future posts may not get approved.

Thanks

Victor

OP, I don't do this often, but I've spell-checked your post below. Your post comes across as one that needs help, so I'm not going to put spelling and grammar in the way of that. Teh rules against txt-spk stand.

I'm wondering if you have writing difficulties - lots of people do. If you do, there is plenty of help out there.

http://www.literacy.ie/
http://www.nala.ie/index.cfm/ext/Home/

If you want the thread deleted, just ask.

I’ve been with my girlfriend well now ex 4 years. And all we ever do is fight I don’t think we have a lot in common and she is very childish in her own way. But it’s only with me and her mother.

The last year has been torture, because this time last year we broke up and we were broke up about a month and I started seeing a girl didn’t mean a lot to me it was just to pass the time

I was trying to figure out if the ex was worth going back to or would we all ways fight and when we fight it get very aggressive so any way this girl I was seeing made a big deal out of me and her to let the ex find out she did and was really hurt and I was hurt because I tried my best not to hurt her.

She then told me she was happy because now so didn’t need to feel guilty from been with a fella and I said what you mean she said I was at a party a week ago and I met a fella I said who was he because I thought I knew what I wanted but then she said that and it hurt me and we started talking again.

I though if it hurt me it must be wrong anyway we got back and we fought ever week. Broke up got back broke up got back she wouldn’t let it go that I was seeing a girl when we were broke up. So that was the end of last summer we got back and were still fighting about it well up until last week, when we broke up.

I’ve told this story to so many people and I’ve got you don’t need her your too nice a lad for her and all this, but then I'm saying maybe I’m giving her a bad rap. Like I do love this girl, but she is so much hard work like the type of hard work that shouldn’t have to have in a relationship.

Now were broke up and I’ve started talk to a girl and she really likes me she has a boyfriend and he doesn’t give her any attention and she has falling for me she has told me, but I have that with ever girl I talk to or start talking to, but I’m thinking is it just an act with me am I all the time the ex says I am or is it her am I just going to go true life messing with girls heads because I can’t be happy or have I just not found what I’m looking for.

star-pants

Fair play Victor - it was a little hard on the eyes.

OP - firstly, you and your ex don't sound like a good match. As you said relationships require work but not that much. You guys fight most of the time and only got back together because you didn't like the idea of her being with someone else. Unless issues are resolved the same things will come up every time ye get back together.

Regarding this new girl, as you said she's not single at the moment so there's not a lot you can do. You may not be 'messing with girls heads' - as you said you may not have found the right girl yet. Why do you feel you're messing with their heads?

zxcvbnm1

ya - that post was impossible to read.
I read about 4 lines and gave up.

Victor

On topic please. Help the guy, don't comment on side issues.

karen3212

Hi Op,

I also think that you and your girlfriend can't seem to be able to talk to each other, and fix problems that you have together. It may be that you are just really not suited for each other.

I think some time alone, living on your own might be a good idea. I certainly wouldn't advise jumping into another relationship so quickly. Just my opinion.