My Friend's New Beau

LegacyUser

Ok I'm a newbie to the Board, but google guided me here and maybe you can help.

I'm 33 and I think I am madly in love with my good friend who is the same age. I suppose it is recent months that I developed these feelings and I guess she knows because others in our group have commented before and would joke about us being "a couple". I never did anything because I don't think she feels the same.

Now my friend has been seeing a fella for about two months. I was told this by another friend, but she never said anything to me even though I have been out with her on my own in the interim. I'm taking a backseat but wonder what her reason is for not saying anything - is she worried i'll have a broken heart? is it possible she has feelings for me and would like me to say something but at the same time is not going to sit and wait? or is it just something where she isn't publicising the fact of having a new fella?

I don't think i'll ever figure out women!

ManOfMystery

One way to find out ................ ask her!! All we can do here is speculate.

bubblewrap

Maybe because she knew you liked her, she didn't want to rub your nose in the fact she has met someone and upset you.

Das Kitty

Yeah dude. She knows you like her and if she wanted you, you'd be together.

I reckon that she hasn't been open about her new relationship for a mixture of two reasons, she enjoys the attention you give her and isn't ready to give that up yet and secondly she doesn't want to stick your face in it.

I suggest you find a beau yourself and don't be mooning over a girl who doesn't want you.

That_Guy

+1 to everything that's been said previously.

You seem to have liked your friend for a very long time now and unfortunately she's found someone. Sure it may not work out but you can't hold on to the hope that it's not going to work out and wait for her to realise that she wants you.
These things don't always pan out like that.

I'm sure it's been mentioned many times to you but maybe you should just remain friends. At least she'll still be part of your life, just not in the way you would like her to be.

Good luck.

Wibbs

Das Kitty wrote: »

Yeah dude. She knows you like her and if she wanted you, you'd be together.

I reckon that she hasn't been open about her new relationship for a mixture of two reasons, she enjoys the attention you give her and isn't ready to give that up yet and secondly she doesn't want to stick your face in it.

I would agree.