I find it really hard to express feelings

LegacyUser

going out with a guy for a couple of months. get on well enough and we are sleeping together a good while. i really like him but am afraid to tell him how i feel incase it's not reciprocated. he has never said how he feels about me either. i've no reason not to believe he likes me but i guess it would be nice to express some feelings. guess i'm waiting for him to say something but it could also be the other way around. we do compliment each other in a physical sense regularly, just have never gone beyond that. is that a bad sign?
i haven't been close to anyone in years either so might be holding back a bit in case it's not mutual.

ogriofa

Hiya,
you don't have to go in with a big "you are my everythinggggg" right away. Try something like "you're great, you know that?" or an "I'm bananas about you" and a big kiss. All said with a big smile.
If its easier, say it when youre in the sack (havent heard that expression in years!) or all loved up on the couch.
It's easier than saying it walking down the street.
G'luck

prinz

You can sleep with him, but you can't tell him you like him .How about you invite him out with the words...'to show you how much I like you!'.......and judge his reaction. Then just drop it into conversation again.....and again.

cantdecide

'I think I might be falling for you' is a personal favourite of mine...

LegacyUser

cantdecide wrote: »

'I think I might be falling for you' is a personal favourite of mine...

mmmm....i was dating a girl and sleeping with her for a while and said these words.....she dumped me!!! I guess just because your sleeping with someone doesnt necessarily mean they are crazy about you too!

That_Guy

It doesn't seem like love to me. You've only been going out a couple of months. No need to blindside him with the whole "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" speech.

I'd be in the same boat as you. If I was ever close with a girl I'd be scared to say anything in case I'd mess it all up so I kept quiet until she said she really liked spending time with me etc. From there feelings were shared left, right and centre.

Just say how you feel. It'll probably be better to get your feelings across sooner rather than later and it may give you an indication as to where your relationship is heading to.

mardybum

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mmmm....i was dating a girl and sleeping with her for a while and said these words.....she dumped me!!! I guess just because your sleeping with someone doesnt necessarily mean they are crazy about you too!

yeah, I was seeing a guy for a little while, liked him, fancied him, slept with him. Then I got the, I think I'm falling for you, line. It made me realise I didn't feel the same way, and I broke up with him.

Okay, so that probably isn't what you wanted to hear, but if it doesn't work out, then it frees you up for finding someone else. And then when you say, I'm really falling for you to that person, they'll say yeah! deadly me too! and you'll get some pretty awesome falling in love sex

GigaByte

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mmmm....i was dating a girl and sleeping with her for a while and said these words.....she dumped me!!! I guess just because your sleeping with someone doesnt necessarily mean they are crazy about you too!

LOL!!! That was the same as me! Maybe its the new way a girl dumps you these days..