Help me heal my broken heart

broly

My boyfriend just broke up with me over my double standards. We've had our problems big, small, and many arguements. I feel like I gave him so many second chances and this time he didn't even think to give me a chance to try even though i promised i would. I was so not ready. I don't know what to do I'm really hurting and can't stop crying. I need some help and sound avice please.

SarahSassy

There is nothing you can do for now other than rest and recoup.... Why is it off this time? If something is constantly finishing there there is obviously somethings seriously wrong... Maybe its for the best as ye dont sound happy.

broly

I was the dominant half of the relationship and sometimes i would annoy him (playfully, poking him etc.!) in a way that if he did it to me i would probably get mad but unfortunately i didn't realise this until he was breaking up with me which was obviously too late for him. It seems like such a small thing i no but it has cost me my relationship. The good times were great. an that's all i can think about

Nevyn

It takes two, he didn't communicate to you he was having issues until it was too late,
if he had of spoken up to you sooner then you could have had a chance to sort things out
he didn't so it's not all your fault.

spacetweek

broly wrote: »

I was the dominant half of the relationship and sometimes i would annoy him (playfully, poking him etc.!) in a way that if he did it to me i would probably get mad but unfortunately i didn't realise this until he was breaking up with me which was obviously too late for him. It seems like such a small thing i no but it has cost me my relationship. The good times were great. an that's all i can think about

Is that it? Just poking? That can't possibly be all there is to it.

Board Walker

there is nothing wrong with telling him exactly what your telling us.

LegacyUser

You need to take time to reflect on why you behaved the way you did. The relationship is over but learn from it. Dont worry about him , he needs to do his own reflecting, Good luck

LegacyUser

OP here,

I'm heartbroken but i don't want the relationship back. I couldn't possibly go through this pain again. I don't even want theories about why we broke up, that much is clear to me and i no i should have probably ended it a long time ago. Despite this, i still love him, what I need is advice on how to move on when he's all i can think about. I've been heartbroken before and it took me a yr to get over the guy. I don't want that again? I need suggestions on what to do to get myself back to the normal happy singledom i am when i don't have heartbreak to worry about.

fuzzywiggle

Well time is the biggest healer and you need to keep positive. When he comes into your mind try to think of something else to get your mind off it. Get out there have some fun with your friends and enjoy yourself and soon you'll find that each day you think of him a little less until you just dont think about him anymore. Don't just sit there crying, or you'll keep crying.

MissyN

It can be very annoying when people say that time is a great healer but it trully is. My bf broke up with me 3 weeks ago and it nearly killed me but I've gotten better as time has passed. People say to keep busy too and have fun but I think you need to go through the pain so that you can properly assess what went wrong and it gives you clarity in your mind eventually and it does help make sense of the whole situation.

You WILL feel better soon. Its bloody tough but its surprising how strong you can be when you really need to be. You are your own leader. Take care babes.