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  • 01-04-2009 11:53pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm seeing him 'in a new light'. It actually surprised me one day.

    The thing is I went out with his friend(probably best friend) we were even talking about getting married(we wanted to be alot more settled in our lives, him just starting a career, me aimlessly wandering through different things, in short neither of us were ready or probably able money wise). We were with each other for a good few years(he know how many I didn't) and besides some small ups and downs we were fine, no big problems. What ended the relationship was he died, which was really crap and still is but slowly I'm getting better with things.

    I've met up with this friend a few times but wasn't anywhere near thinking about another guy. I started thinking it would be nice to have someone around in about Feb but no one was good enough, I just wasn't attracted to anyone and if I was they were deemed an ass. Until I saw him a few weeks ago. The thing is I really don't know if I like him for the proper reasons, I don't want to start getting into something and then realise that it isn't what I want/need and end up hurting me or him.


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  • #2
    Craft25
    Closed Accounts Posts: 470 ✭✭Craft25


    D'you know i've heard of it a few times where a wife will die and the hubby & her best friend develop feelings & same if hubby died, the wife & his mate develop feelings. I think it actually happened with some famous couple in ireland, cant remember who, middle aged if i remember correctly. It lasted a year or two & fizzled out. ( :confused:who was that?? :confused:)

    Something to do with them going through the same sort of process in their lives, started comforting each other & then developed deeper.

    This may not be the case with you at all but even if it is then, so what!, what's wrong with indulging yourself in a bit of a warm relationship with someone you already know as a good guy. It may not last forever but all you can do is go with your feelings as you feel them. Beware that some others may take a dim view of it though, judgemental & all that! Take things slowly


  • #3
    AARRRGH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I'm seeing him 'in a new light'. It actually surprised me one day.

    The thing is I went out with his friend(probably best friend) we were even talking about getting married(we wanted to be alot more settled in our lives, him just starting a career, me aimlessly wandering through different things, in short neither of us were ready or probably able money wise). We were with each other for a good few years(he know how many I didn't) and besides some small ups and downs we were fine, no big problems. What ended the relationship was he died, which was really crap and still is but slowly I'm getting better with things.

    I've met up with this friend a few times but wasn't anywhere near thinking about another guy. I started thinking it would be nice to have someone around in about Feb but no one was good enough, I just wasn't attracted to anyone and if I was they were deemed an ass. Until I saw him a few weeks ago. The thing is I really don't know if I like him for the proper reasons, I don't want to start getting into something and then realise that it isn't what I want/need and end up hurting me or him.

    I'm having a lot of trouble understanding what you're trying to say, sorry.


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