Wedding abroad Present

funty3000

hi all,my neighbour/friend is getting married abroad next month. We are not going to wedding as my daughter is making her communion at same time.We have had a night out recently with meal and are going away this weekend for hen party.There is also a night out planned with other neighbours that i feel il have to go to aswell.What im asking is how much should i give in card when there not getting married here.To be honest i cant even afford to go away this weekend and feel under pressure with communion coming up so moneys not great.i dont want to come accross as mean though xx

axel rose

Well according to tradition you are to sign your house over to them. (April fool )
I know when I got married abroad I didnt expect any presents. Why do some couples think that their friends should be expected to spend all their money and time on them? Its not royality you are talking about. Three nights out AND a wedding abroad!!!!! :eek:

tinkerbell

Well I think the days of €x per person to put in the card are long over. With so many people losing their jobs, tax hikes, and the like, money is a lot tighter. If you can't afford to give her anything, then don't. If giving €50 in a card is going to make you scrape by for the rest of the month or take away something from your child's communion day, then I wouldn't give anything.

You're not going to her wedding, you're already there for the nights out. It's not costing the bride anything by you not being there. So just give a card. Seriously, there's no point in making yourself strapped for cash unnecessarily just to keep up with the Jones'.

Emerald Lass

funty3000 wrote: »

hi all,my neighbour/friend is getting married abroad next month. We are not going to wedding as my daughter is making her communion at same time.We have had a night out recently with meal and are going away this weekend for hen party.There is also a night out planned with other neighbours that i feel il have to go to aswell.What im asking is how much should i give in card when there not getting married here.To be honest i cant even afford to go away this weekend and feel under pressure with communion coming up so moneys not great.i dont want to come accross as mean though xx

and yet people on other threads are adamant that a wedding abroad is cheaper for the guests. When you add in all these extra's it is an even weaker argument. If the couple were marrying here they would just prob have a hen/stag, not a meal as well and a neighbours night. And then a lot of couples have a party back in Ireland after the wedding, which is basically an evening reception - it doesn't cost as much as full day's wedding, but if people were to refuse to go to that the couple prob would be offended, and its yet another night out. Even the people who DID attend the wedding will prob be expected to attend that as well!

Sorry rant over - back to your question......

Give what you can afford funty3000 - if that be nothing more than a card so be it. If they think any less of you then they are plain rude and badly reared! If you want to give a token gift you could even give €10 or €20 worth of lottery tickets in the card - they might end up winning thousands!?

funty3000

thanks for all the replies.had the weekend away it wasnt great lol.your all right in regards to the way things have changed and only give what you can afford.they are also having a nite when they come home which is another night out and a babysitter etc.I actually think it would be just easier go to a wedding here.Its not a great time to be getting married theyll always be someone it puts strain on.

Mrs Fed

Definitely, give what you can afford and do it with serenity.

Ciao