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Doubts

  • 31-03-2009 9:04am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Dont get me wrong I adore my boyfriend but sometimes he can he a total idiot (like us all i suppose). Sometimes i can see we have a future and then sometimes i dont. Never really had a proper relationship til i met him.......too busy enjoying life doing my own thing but when i met him over 2 years ago i completely fell head over heals. He is pretty amazing but I keep thinking the what if ........ If i do let complete go and put 150% in just completely afraid of being hurt. We dont do much together only see eachother at the weekend but never spend it alone or go away........i want to be able to do more things together go see different things and places even in Ireland but theres no move he seems pretty happy as he is. How do you know when they are the one or get over this fear of being hurt?


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  • #2
    jellie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,503 ✭✭✭✭jellie


    my thinking would be youll never know unless you let yourself give 100%. yes its hard & the potential for hurt is much greater but youll never know how good it COULD be unless you give it a try.

    however, if youre already having doubt about him then dont throw yourself fully into it as an attempt to save a failing relationship.

    are the doubts because youre holding back or are you holding back because of the doubts?
    (am i making any sense?)

    i cant remember the song, i think its from girlband or something but theres a line that stuck with me when i was really heartbroken over my ex - "what good is an unbreakable heart". yeah you might get hurt, but if you dont give it a shot then youll never know what you could be missing out on.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    that is very true.........it's not doubts about a failing realtionship i think it's more the feeling of getting hurt and let down more than anything. and the what if's 5 years down the road.......i've seen and helped so many friends through breakn ups after 5 or 6 years and i suppose it's after making me more wary.......and a bit afraid.

    Thanks for your words of advise i suppose i will never know till i completely put the two feet in instead of one in and the other half out. if it makes any sense.

    Thanks again :)


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