Dumper and dumpee

thegame

Does the person that dumps someone feel it after a while,i read that the person that dumps someone gets the hurt and fear of loss after a while.is this true

oh i hate that word as well dumped..horrible sorry all

BroomBurner

I've been both and neither are particularly pleasant

Polleta

I was the dumper in my last relationship and it hurt like hell. It was a pretty mutual discussion about our future but my ex wouldn't say the words we were thinking so I had to actually become the bad guy and he cried.

I was pretty devastated myself and it took me about a year to totally get over that relationship. SO that's a yes in my experience both people feel the hurt, loss, pain, regret, confusion, anger and everything else that get thrown into a relationship break up.

thegame

my girlfriend ended the relationship 4 weeks ago we were going out 4 and a half years she said she was not happy with me and it took her a while to realise it,she texted me to meet up to be friends cause she wanted to be still in contact with me,i said no not interested. she said she doesnt want to talk about the realtionship anymore and she is happy and said she would love to meet up to be friends..No Way!!! i hope someday she regrets it and goes through the pain im going through.

ellie1

[HTML]i hope someday she regrets it and goes through the pain im going through. [/HTML]

Wanting somebody to suffer like you are is are normal feeling to have however this will pass. Its extreamly difficult to get over being rejected by somebody we love. I would advice you to keep very busy, take up a new hobby, meet friends etc. Do allow yourself the time to focus on your hurt and pain but dont let it consume your life. Dont contact her even if she contacts you. Get yourself a calender and start crossing off the days of no contact. Someday you will forget to do it and then you know you are on the road to recovery.

SarahSassy

Well it doesnt always follow that the dumper will suffer too. I have been both upset about doing it and in other cases, I walked away with a clear conscience and never looked back.

I think as long as the dumper treated you well when finishing it, they get over it quicker.