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Question for the guys (or any knowledgeable girls!)

  • 28-03-2009 9:30pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi - just looking for opinions on this as obviously none of you know the guy and can't read his mind.

    Guys if you ask a girl for her number generally do you want to see her again and intend to ring her or would you just use it to avoid an awkward goodbye like chandler in friends 'this is fun we should do it again [lost on you if you haven't seen the episode haha)

    Specifically met a guy the other night out with mutual aquaintances and hit off lots of chatting most of the night and a kiss later on in the night. When I was leaving he found me a taxi and asked for my number before I got in.

    Now haven't heard from him at all! So wondering how long would you wait to text/ring the girl if you were interested? Guessing if i don't hear from him in next few days it was the avoiding an awkward goodbye deal..??


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  • Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,238 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Maybe he wants to leave it a few days so he doesn't seem over keen

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    You didn't get his then?

    Alcohol levels have their usual significance here, OP. If he wasn't full of dutch courage and he liked you enough to kiss you and get your number, then he'll call. If he was full of the joys of it, chances are you shouldn't hold your breath just yet. He could have shyness issues or wake up the next day and think 'was she as cute as I remember'.

    If you are partaking in some mutual digging, SERIOUSLY... get a guys number yourself.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yes alcohol levels are always good addition to these things. He was in better shape than I was as he had a client meeting next morning so while he had a couple of drinks he wasn't exactly knocking them back.

    Just a shame if i didn't hear form him as we really hit it off and there was a definite spark. Total gent never even suggested taking anything further that night. Getting his number would involve asking one of my friends to ask one of his friends so too many people getting involved. I do know his email address as one of my firneds works there too and they all have same format - slight stalkery to email though?

    only been a few days so i'll give him benefit of dount.

    just wondering for any of you reading if you go to trouble of asking girl for number do you intend to call and also how long would you wait to contact her?

    sorry i know this is all a bit tennage-y but first guy i've liked in along time!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    When did you meet him? Most guys I know would wait at least 2-3 days before texting/calling a girl otherwise comes across too keen.

    Also there's a strong possibility he had a few too many on board and woke up realising you weren't as great as he thought or is just not the most confident of guys.. or worse still has a girlfriend. I have asked girls for numbers plenty of times and not called, it's more a chandler thing tbh.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Also there's a strong possibility he had a few too many on board and woke up realising you weren't as great as he thought or is just not the most confident of guys.. or worse still has a girlfriend. I have asked girls for numbers plenty of times and not called, it's more a chandler thing tbh.

    I agree. its either one of the above, or he just wants to give it a couple of days so he doesn't seem over keen.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20 greatandgood


    Any more than 5 days and it's a lost cause I reckon. Please don't email him...if he wants to see you he will find a way to contact you.

    Alcohol + hormones/horniness can = supposed 'spark'.

    I would write it off at this stage if I were you, sorry.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    haha yes i don't think i'd actually go ahead and email him. Anyhow we only met on thursday night so wasn't really expecting a call till mon or so.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I'm the furthest thing from a player (my current dry spell is not far off being counted in years) but I'm ashamed to say I've gotten a number and then never called. I'd gotten a drunken snog but by the time the morning came I realised that I just wasn't really interested on going for a date or anything.

    It was no slight on the girl. I just had a lot going on in my life and didn't want anything more than a drunken kiss. Obviously, I didn't feel that way when I was drunk. The girl was drunk too so I thought by not calling, it'd be easier than calling only to tell her I wasn't looking to go out with her.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    shinimesa wrote: »

    Specifically met a guy the other night out with mutual aquaintances and hit off lots of chatting most

    Now haven't heard from him at all! So wondering how long would you wait to text/ring the girl if you were interested?

    If you meet someone out and get there number -yup its cos you like them.

    However the actual call is very intinidating - why not ask your friends for his number and do the asking.:D:D


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,655 Mod ✭✭✭✭Manic Moran


    If the worst comes to the worst, get the mutual acquaintances to figure out where he's going to be at some point in the future, and be there yourself.

    Personally, I never have asked for a number and not called within a few days.

    NTM


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭chrissb7


    who gives a s**t the lad obviously wanted to leave it at that most people gom out get smashed drunken kiss here n dere its in the irish way of nature wat r u some american who thinks that after some sloppy kiss he'l call you and swipe you off ur feet seriously bottom line is don't wear your heart on your sleave


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 470 ✭✭Craft25


    if he was a shy type of guy then the fact you didnt offer to put his number in your phone aswell might make him think you only gave him yours out of politeness.

    If you like him just get in touch, what's the worst that could happen, at least you'd find out. Dont mention the fact he hasn't called you, just ignore that & ask him out!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,603 ✭✭✭Mal-Adjusted


    chrissb7 wrote: »
    who gives a s**t the lad obviously wanted to leave it at that most people gom out get smashed drunken kiss here n dere its in the irish way of nature wat r u some american who thinks that after some sloppy kiss he'l call you and swipe you off ur feet seriously bottom line is don't wear your heart on your sleave


    that's a lot of assumption there, no need to be an ass:rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 861 ✭✭✭Blue_Wolf


    Personally I would text the next day or 2


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,898 ✭✭✭✭seanybiker


    PM me a picture of yourself and I'll tell ya what the reason is.
    Na seriously though the only time I ask for numbers is when I want to call them. Dont see the point in asking for a number if your not gonna use it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 861 ✭✭✭Blue_Wolf


    ya but i can also see the side of asking for the number to avoid that pause moment of "are you going to ask or do I have to ask". It's awkward but personally wouldnt have a problem putting a girl into a taxi and not asking for their number, smiling at them thinking to myself yup never see ur face again :pac:


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