Cliquey People

fryup

Clicky-Standoffish People, whats with them??

Now i'm the type of guy who tries to get on with everyone (if possible)

But where i work there's a group of people who think they are so cool & clever:rolleyes: that you have to be on one knee to them.

The only time they talk to you if its work-related, try to start a conversation with them and they look at each other and snigger amongst themselves as if they got this telepathic code going on.

Now i know you'll say... ignore them, well i wish i could but i have to work with these assh&les...and its not the first time i've come across this.. its seems to getting more & more prevalent esp in this country.

Professey Chin

Click or clique?

mikemac

fryup wrote: »

The only time they talk to you if its work-related,

So whats the problem?
Be professional and only talk to them on work issues so.

Not everyone in work will be your friend. There are probably people there who for no good reason don't like you at all.

And some people have no interest in chatting and laughing with others.
But this makes them assh&les?

dublinario

Hi, I'd just like a chance to defend myself here. I founded the clique the original poster is referring to in 2006, and we have been very successful. The poster is correct: we do ignore him, and occasionally snigger at him, quite openly in fact. But isn't that the whole point of a clique? If we didn't do that, we'd be more of a club than a clique, and that's not what I set out to establish.

fryup

mikemac wrote: »

Not everyone in work will be your friend.

And some people have no interest in chatting and laughing with others.
But this makes them assh&les?

i don't expect them to be my friend...i'm just talking about a civilised conversation...if people can't engage in that ...well then they are ignorant assh&les in my book

CreepingDeath

fryup wrote: »

Clicky-Standoffish People, whats with them??

They're entitled to pick their own social group and they reserve the right to refuse admission.

They're probably a group of smokers or the like anyways, or share some common interest/background.

WindSock

Oh nooo. Images of not fitting in with the cool kids in skool r creeping back into my head. Traumatic times.

TerrorFirmer

Now i'm the type of guy who tries to get on with everyone (if possible)

The sweaty bald guy who tries to initiate conversation at the water cooler (with the girls)?

Overheal

People who try to get along with everyone are pretentious and insincere. I have a much better time believing someone when they don't mind letting you know theyre pissed off at someone.

WindSock

Yeah dude. Just because you talk to everyone doesnt mean every one else does. Some people can't be arsed with small talk and would rather talk about things they want with people they know who can hold the same conversational capacity.

dublinario

TerrorFirmer wrote: »

The sweaty bald guy who tries to initiate conversation at the water cooler (with the girls)?

Or the sweaty bald girl who tries to initiate sex at the photocopier (with the guys)?

Naos

I'd get on with most, but some people just annoy me - why would I spend what precious time I have engaging them in conversation?

Rsaeire

The example you gave makes it appear as if the people you work with are immature, if they find it humorous when you attempt to strike up a conversation, and compound the issue when they look at each other as if they’re all in on some joke.

Without the sniggering and looking at each other, I would assume the people prefer to keep their social interaction to people they like or know and not randomly talk to people they work with. In addition, you’ll find some people who find it inane when people they don’t know in work start making conversation, especially if eye contact isn’t made. Each to their own as they say.

Acacia

mikemac wrote: »

And some people have no interest in chatting and laughing with others.
But this makes them assh&les?

Yeah, kinda. Sure, they don't have to talk to the OP outside work if they don't want to, but making a bit of small talk or a joke with him in the office won't kill them. And them sniggering when he talks to them reeks of childish pretension to be honest.

Naos wrote: »

I'd get on with most, but some people just annoy me - why would I spend what precious time I have engaging them in conversation?

You don't have to engage them in conversation, though. Just don't laugh at them when they try to talk to you.


OP, by the sounds of things, this crowd in work are taking themselves way too seriously. I wouldn't bother me arse trying to get on with them if they're just going to act like tools. Leave them to it. Life's too short.

milod

OP, why not buy a few psychology books that deal with clique and peer group dynamics. Then, if you can be arsed, why not f**k around with their clique.

If you have the energy, you can really have fun deposing a peer group leader or diluting the group dynamic in some way.

In the last place I worked, there was a particularly offensive, mild bullying type, with a sh1t eating grin that annoyed me so much he had to be dealt with. Start with the weakest clique members and work from there. Instill doubt and spread disinformation about the peer group leaders, especially if you can find examples of how they've been disloyal to the other clique members. This is usually quite easy as the sort of individuals that practice social exclusion are generally a little insecure themselves and tend to retain power by insidious undermining of colleagues.

Have fun...

big b

As you can see, most people are c*nts.

If you approach them with that expectation, you'll be a lot less disappointed.

dublinario

milod wrote: »

In the last place I worked, there was a particularly offensive, mild bullying type, with a sh1t eating grin that annoyed me so much he had to be dealt with.

Again, I feel like I'm being attacked from all sides here. Yes, I was also leader of the clique in Milod's workplace, but I feel 'sh1t eating grin' is harsh. Due to some botched surgery on a cleft palette, my face is botoxed stiff into an unfortunate smirk that could be described as 'smug'. Thank God I have my clique around me for support. I don't know what I would have done without them.