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I don't (but I really do) want my friend, he doesn't feel the same

  • 24-03-2009 11:18pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I saw him on his bike for the first time a while ago and he was really hot. We stopped and talked he got into the passenger seat of my car, which is small, he was really close, I was very tempted to just throw my arms around him and probably the rest of me too. I always thought he was good looking but I was always going out with someone or going through the faze of 'all men are assholes'.

    I'm sure he doesn't like me because he never makes much of an effort to hangout with me or even text me.

    I think it's pointless to ask him out, it'll probably be ages before I see him again, he's just not that bothered. I don't know how not to like him, I just can't stop thinking about him in his biker clothes.

    I think I would be better off not liking him but how the hell do I do that?


Comments

  • #2
    Home4Life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 51 ✭✭Home4Life


    try it !
    You have nothing to lose,
    and I suspect, more to regret by not asking than if you do....


  • #3
    magick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,478 ✭✭✭magick


    Life is short,
    fortune favours the bold,
    if you dont ask, the answer is automatically no.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Home4Life wrote: »
    try it !
    You have nothing to lose,
    and I suspect, more to regret by not asking than if you do....

    I don't think I could just ask him, maybe drop a lot of hints. The biggest problem there is I can rarely get time alone with him, nothing seems to be working for me.


  • #5
    PK2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,219 ✭✭✭PK2008


    Thats the BMX for you....always drives them wild!!!


  • #6
    upmeath
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,492 ✭✭✭upmeath


    For some strange reason, the first couple of lines of the OP got me thinking of "Don't You Want Me Baby?" by the Human League. For me, anyway!

    I'd say go for it, no harm in asking!


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  • #7
    Craft25
    Closed Accounts Posts: 470 ✭✭Craft25


    IMO when you feel that feeling of physical attraction you described, the gravity like pull - there is something to it, it's like your instinct; ya gotta trust it

    How do you know he doesn't like you, just because he hasn't made any moves, maybe he's just a shy guy and feels he has no chance - Go for it!!


  • #8
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    PK2008 read the charter of this forum before posting again. Particularly the part about no unhelpful posts.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #9
    Home4Life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 51 ✭✭Home4Life


    Wibbs - I agree with that. The girl is looking for advice, not nonsense.

    I'd suggest the hints you drop could be about places you'll be alone,
    or nearly alone (you could bring a friend who is pre-warned to leave after 10 minutes).

    The fact that you have a car gives you plenty of scope for that.
    Think of a place he's actually like to go himself (does he like music / books etc), mention you're going there this Saturday and see if the bait is taken.


  • #10
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Do you have his number? Couldn't you just ask him out that way?
    You'll never know unless you ask


  • #11
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    Make them big hints. Or just bite the bullet and let things fly....


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  • #12
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Just ask him out OP!!!The worst he can say is that he is not interested.If that is the case then at least you can move on and you will know its not ment to be.However if you dont ask him,you will have the niggle in the back of your mind for ages and it will take a hell of alot longer to get past your feelings for him as opposed to taking the plunge and asking him out.I got asked out on a date by a very hot girl I know in October but couldnt do anything as I was seeing someone at the time but I hold this young lady in the highest esteem for actually having the balls to ask me out.Unfortunatly Im now single but she is seeing someone.Que sera sera.The point Im making is that you will never know until you ask him yourself.And besides,whats to say he wouldnt be interested in you?:)Do it now or regret it forever!Good luck to you.


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