Does age matter...?

hubbabubba

Hi...

Im in my early twenties. I have recently found myself falling for a guy I work with but hes 8 or 9 yrs older than me..... We have been texting etc and get on well together but I can't help but think nothing can/will come of it due to the age difference? He has gone off and done the travelling thing and got all othat out of his system - I want to do that...

So i guess teh Question is - do I forget about this before it even starts (if it was to) or should I go for it and see what happens...

MagicMarker

If he was the same age as you and had already gone traveling would you still be worried?

Age doesn't matter (within reason) but ''life stage'' does I suppose.

sam34

theres a thread in PI on this at the moment.

all i can say is that ive never found an age gap a significant problem.

i like my men older than me, simple as that.

it's not a sugar-daddy scenario, far from it.

the youngest guy i was in a relationship with was 9 years older than me - i was 19 he was 28, when i was 21 i went out with a guy who was 11 years older than me, and it lasted 4 years. more recently, i was with a man who was 23 yrs older than me, lasted almost a year.

with the first one, id have to say that the age gap did matter a little bit, i was student whereas he'd already done all that stuff, but nonetheless it wasnt the biggest factor in the break-up

with the other two, the age thing wasnt an issue at all and didnt contribute to the break-up in either case.

give it a go, see what happens.

it might be the best decision of your life!

Jules

moved to PI from tLL.

krudler

Its all relative really, am 18 year old dating someone in their 40s might be seen as...wierd, but whatever makes you happy, once you get into your 20s then it becomes less important imo, but people are at different stages, eg someone whos 22 might have the desire to travel and go on adventures but someone in their 30s or 40s could be after stability, I've been with anyone older than me save a year or two but my current girlfriend is 5 years younger than me and its not in any way an issue

smares

Age doesn't matter. If you get along and like each other then your ages should not come into it. If its meant to be then go for it. Don't be worrying about the age because it probably only is you who is worrying about it.
Theres an 8 year difference between me and my boyfriend and it's not an issue!

andrewh5

smares wrote: »

Age doesn't matter. If you get along and like each other then your ages should not come into it. If its meant to be then go for it. Don't be worrying about the age because it probably only is you who is worrying about it.
Theres an 8 year difference between me and my boyfriend and it's not an issue!

+1 12 years between me and my OH.

Darthhoob

10 years between me and my hubby. we often forget the age gap as we want the same things and like the same things. he was apparently a tearaway in his twenties, but now he has mellowed and grown up. i spose thats why i like older men? cos they are more likely to be 'grown up' than men my age of younger (26)

i am a tad bit jealous that he at least lived a bit before he met me and had kids..lol, whereas i was pregnant at 19. but that doesn't get in the way of what we have at all.

for you though i dont think age is the problem, it's that you want different things

kronsington

eh, i recently hooked up with a tasty 21yr old girl, and im 27, how bad?

within reason, age isn't a reason not to be with someone

puglover

hubbabubba wrote: »

Hi...

He has gone off and done the travelling thing and got all othat out of his system - I want to do that...

This line says to me that you want different things. Would you be willing to miss out on travelling or any other life experiences you want to have? What if you do and you break up 5/10 years down the line when you might have a mortgage/career/responsibilities etc that you can't walk away from... you migth resent the fact that you missed out for him. What about later on in life when he gets to look back on all the fun he had travelling and you are left wondering?

While age doesn't realy make a huge difference. The stage you are at in life does. Some people don't have any desire to go travelling etc and it all works out fine, others don't however.

I've been there, went out with someone 12 years older than me for 3.5 years & the things I missed out on def made me begin to resent him towards the end.

hubbabubba

MagicMarker wrote: »

If he was the same age as you and had already gone traveling would you still be worried?

Age doesn't matter (within reason) but ''life stage'' does I suppose.

Thansk for all the replies...

This is a good point MagicMaker

I don't really know where I stand, what I want ot anything like at the moment. Ive just landed a good job - tied to that for about three years anyway so wouldn't even be thinking of travelling or anything until then.... Sure for all I know he mightn't even be intertested!