Sex

LegacyUser

I am in my mid twenties have had 3 proper relationships. That is as far as my sex life goes 3 sexual partners. I am single now since july and thats the last time ive had sex. i just cant justify sleeping with a guy unless i am in love with them. is that totally weird? Then theres this guy who i am always snogging if i am single, he wants us to sleep 2gether but i am afraid he will loose intrest if i do..We have been meeting up everyweek for the last 7 months does this mean he likes me when he hasnt dropped me for not getting sex at this stage. i am in love with him, he was my first love and i have never gotton over him..

tbh

when it comes to sex, there's no right or wrong option - you do what you personally think is right.

prinz

Unregistered wrote: »

I am in my mid twenties have had 3 proper relationships. That is as far as my sex life goes 3 sexual partners. I am single now since july and thats the last time ive had sex...

Nowt odd so far.

Unregistered wrote: »

i just cant justify sleeping with a guy unless i am in love with them. is that totally weird?

Not in my opinion

Unregistered wrote: »

Then theres this guy who i am always snogging if i am single, he wants us to sleep 2gether but i am afraid he will loose intrest if i do..We have been meeting up everyweek for the last 7 months does this mean he likes me when he hasnt dropped me for not getting sex at this stage. i am in love with him, he was my first love and i have never gotton over him..

You are in love with him, presumably therefore you can justify sleeping with him. So why not go for it? If you dont feel comfortable don't. If you want to - do.

upmeath

Unregistered wrote: »

i just cant justify sleeping with a guy unless i am in love with them

Doing pretty well if you've been in love 3 times by your mid twenties! :eek:

markens2

God will still love you and he understands your situation.

The best bet is to go to a priest and absolve yourself of your impure thoughts.

Silverfish

markens2 wrote: »

God will still love you and he understands your situation.

The best bet is to go to a priest and absolve yourself of your impure thoughts.

Please read the charter of this forum with relation to off-topic posting.

Board Walker

your dead right not to have respect for yourself.

but i really dont see an issue with sleeping with the guy. 7 months is a long time!

upmeath

Unregistered wrote: »

i just cant justify sleeping with a guy unless i am in love with them. is that totally weird?
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i am in love with him, he was my first love and i have never gotton over him..

It may be OT, but I think you undervalue love. This sounds more like strong feelings for someone, strong sexual urge, or just pure lust to me. But then again you're making a bit of a song and dance about the current beau so I guess you might be on your way to a more meaningful sexual relationship! Best of luck!

SarahMc

There is absolutely nothing wierd or strange about only sleeping with guys when you are in a relationship. However, I do find it strange that you are asking if this guy likes you if he hasn't dumped you because you aren't sleeping together!

Surely after 7 months you have figured out if he likes you by what he tells you, or more importantly how he treats you.

upmeath

SarahMc wrote: »

However, I do find it strange that you are asking if this guy likes you if he hasn't dumped you because you aren't sleeping together!

I'm with SarahMc on this one!

Das Kitty

IMO you should trust the person you are having sex with.

Your issue for not sleeping with him seems to be this.

Your real question is, "should you trust him?"

The answer is only you can know that!