Nights out apart

LegacyUser

do you trust your partner if he is out without you? booze, pubs, clubs, hot women etc?

it does worry me an awful lot in case he decides he wants a proper night out away from me. no matter how safe and happy you feel in your relationship, does the possibility of someone catching his eye worry you?

is cheating really that common because that only ever seems to be what you hear of, not the nice ones who wouldn't want to hurt their partner.

LegacyUser

Anyone and everyone is capable of cheating but very few choose not to do so. Pub with mates, yes I can trust him, night out in a club, not so much. They are meat markets.

lolli

Everyone needs a night out with their friends. Its good to spend time away from your partner. If you havewn't got trust its hard to have much else.

Rayne

Trust him 100% ! Without a doubt, he can go out all he likes with his friends, clubs/pubs/even strip clubs!!
I sometimes encourage it (LOVE me time)

Silverfish

OP, how is this a personal issue for you?

Or are you just looking for general opinions?

star-pants

If you trust your other half then that's all that matters.
I used to sometimes head home early from a night out & my then bf would come home later when he was ready to. Never bothered me.
One used to text when he was out with friends saying how there was hot women around him but all he wanted was me. I didnt like the thought of that lol but the sentiment was sweet and I trusted him so it was ok.

Doesn't mean there's not lots of people who might catch their eye. But you can't let things like that worry you every time your OH goes out.

Tate

I think if you have trust issues then you might need to look at your relationship. My partner and I go out with our indivdual friends every so often and we don't have any hang up about it casue we know that we trust and respect each other.

FX Meister

Trust me bird to the max. FACT

orlaj

:Di wasnt long with my partner when his ex girlfriend arrived in town and wanted to meet ... so i told him to go he thought it was great i could do that we are together nine years later and ive met her on a couple of occasions , it doesnt mean i wasnt terrified
but he was worth it ! you have to try and trust him and if he is worth it , itll work out ..

Stheno

I'd find it strange not to have nights out apart tbh, I'd have different interests and friends from my partner, and I like my own space so I'd regularly have stuff I'd be doing myself that a. doesn't need my partner there, or b. he'd feel left out if he was there.

All good and healthy imo, you can't live your life for another person.

If you don't feel comfortable with your OH going out alone then you've possibly got issues around trust there.

Frisbee

I'd say 90% of the time I go out it's without my girlfriend

LegacyUser

never gave it much thought....but now i'm worried

Silverfish

Ok, this isn't really a PI.

OP, if you have a problem you need help with, post it, but general 'Who here does x,y,z' aren't really PI's.