Girlfriend is a croupier

LegacyUser

Hey, just want some advice off you guys on what you think of this situation. Recently i have started seeing a croupier from my local casino. Our relationship has to be kept secret though because she may lose her job if her boss finds out she is going out with a customer. It makes things hard, having to meet up in quiet pubs and places. Being afraid when going out together in case we are spotted. I'd like to be able to just enjoy her company without worrying in public and being seen as a couple. We are both very happy together and have started making some medium/longterm plans for the future. But each day is stressful for me as im constantly worried that it might get back to the casino as i have told some close friends and i always wonder if someone might have overheard us talking. If i lost her her job because of my carelessness in being so happy with her and wanting to be able to tell friends and family i don't think i could forgive myself.

I was wondering if anyone knows if it is legal for a casino to fire one of its croupiers for going out with a customer? Should i approach her boss and ask his permission and tell him its not just a fling to see if we can get it out in the open? Has anyone else ever gone out with a croupier? If so, how did you deal with it?

Stheno

Could you not just stop frequenting the casino as a customer and you could say you met on a night out somewhere?

shapez

TBH - I think it absurd that a casino boss has that kind of a handle on his employees personal lives!! Outside the workplace is your girlfriends business and yours, not your bosses as well.

LegacyUser

nouggatti wrote: »

Could you not just stop frequenting the casino as a customer and you could say you met on a night out somewhere?

I have stopped going in there as much. Very rarely now compared to what i used to. Basically to try do what your saying. I figure it isn't as big a deal if i'm no longer a regular customer. But im worried the fact that i used to be might come back to haunt her if and when it all comes out.

prinz

croupiers fella wrote: »

I have stopped going in there as much. Very rarely now compared to what i used to. Basically to try do what your saying. I figure it isn't as big a deal if i'm no longer a regular customer. But im worried the fact that i used to be might come back to haunt her if and when it all comes out.

Unless you were a frequent winner at her table ? My advice is stop going in there at all if you're that worried. It shouldn't be an issue.

Nervous Wreck

shapez wrote: »

TBH - I think it absurd that a casino boss has that kind of a handle on his employees personal lives!! Outside the workplace is your girlfriends business and yours, not your bosses as well.

Its his business if his employee's OH frequents the place and makes regular winnings at a certain table.....


Go to a different casino. Done.

bubblewrap

Exactly, just don't go to the casino. I can see why this is a rule to be honest because obviously to them, you could be made to win. Say you met her in there obviously if anyone saw you but you don't really go in anymore so it shouldn't be an issue.

If you want her that bad, I am sure you can give up that for her.

upmeath

croupiers fella wrote: »

I was wondering if anyone knows if it is legal for a casino to fire one of its croupiers for going out with a customer? Should i approach her boss and ask his permission and tell him its not just a fling to see if we can get it out in the open?

I can't see how the government would write special legislation to protect his interests considering his interests are still pretty shady in the grey area that is casinos and poker clubs in Ireland. So I highly dought it's legal for him to do so. And no, I wouldn't dare approach him.
I know you may have made this casino your own, but are there others nearby that you could start frequenting so as not to complicate things with your OH?

Mimikyu

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upmeath

-Phuqer- wrote: »

bet were she works.

I bet she works in the casino he goes to

Dave147

I'm in a similar situation, my girlfriend is a waitress in a Casino, going out with her 6 months now, at first it was pretty hush hush but now most people know including her co-workers and friends and my friends. However, I no longer go into the casino, and have only been on the premises twice in the last 6 months and only once while we were going out. I absolutely love her to pieces so giving up the casino wasn't even an issue.

About the keeping it a secret, I know it's annoying because there's nothing worse than keeping a good thing a secret, she's not ashamed of you or anything but I'm sure she's afraid of losing her job and doesn't want to jeopardise it.

milod

bubblewrap wrote: »

If you want her that bad, I am sure you can give up that for her.

+1 Is it hard for you to consider not going to the casino?.

Remember, your girlfriend is one of the few people that actually makes money in the casino :pac: Most people, including yourself I'm sure, make a net loss.

In banning relationships with customers, the casino owner is simply trying to prevent you using your girlfriend to some advantage. He wants you to continue losing. Not hard to comprehend really unless you're in denial about the way in which casinos make such enormous profits...