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I need a man

  • 23-03-2009 3:49pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I have always been in relationships. I am single now for the last 9 months and i tend to stick to the same losers. I never go for a guy that i dont know. I am an attractive, professional girl and i am just so lonely at the minute i feel like i will never meet a nice guy. Any ideas what i should do?


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  • #2
    aye
    Closed Accounts Posts: 991 ✭✭✭aye


    Go out.
    join clubs, go to classes that have men in them.
    go to gym.
    take a chance and ask a guy out.


  • #3
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,219 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Speed dating
    Internet dating


  • #4
    vinylbomb
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 605 ✭✭✭vinylbomb


    Take the initiative.

    Guys (although they wont admit it too often) dig that sh!t.

    Although, you don't need to be in a relationship to be un-alone, if that makes sense.


  • #5
    puglover
    Closed Accounts Posts: 442 ✭✭puglover


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I have always been in relationships. I am single now for the last 9 months and i tend to stick to the same losers. I never go for a guy that i dont know. I am an attractive, professional girl and i am just so lonely at the minute i feel like i will never meet a nice guy. Any ideas what i should do?

    As the others said gym, classes, whatever....

    Sticking to the same losers isn't going to get you anywhere. Try getting to know some new people. Broaden your horizons. You're a young professional, I'm sure you could go to lots of corporate do's.


  • #6
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,364 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    vinylbomb wrote: »
    Take the initiative. Guys (although they wont admit it too often) dig that sh!t.

    Guys dig that sh!t and admit to it regularly.

    Plenty of nice guys out there waiting for nice girls. Give up your comfort zone and get out there....


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  • #7
    Millie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭Millie


    By the way you don't need a man!
    One would probably be nice in your life but you can function without one.


  • #8
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Just out of curiousity what type of guys do you mean as you say you 'tend to stick to the same losers'?
    Different places attract different types of people so maybe figure out new places to go where the type you don't want don't exactly go. For example, if you don't want a rocker then don't go to the rock joints in the city.


  • #9
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,364 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    Unregistered wrote: »
    ....what type of guys do you mean as you say you 'tend to stick to the same losers'?....

    +1

    I thought that sounded very cold. You really aren't doing much for your chances of meeting a nice guy if you're happy to come off as an ice queen...


  • #10
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    Firstly you shouldn't NEED a man. It's this exact trait of being over reliant on another person to DEFINE you that has probably led you to loser after loser- any warm body will do.

    Enjoy being single. Learn to get to know who YOU are so that you can meet someone more suited to that.


  • #11
    puglover
    Closed Accounts Posts: 442 ✭✭puglover


    Mr. Incognito wrote: »
    Firstly you shouldn't NEED a man. It's this exact trait of being over reliant on another person to DEFINE you that has probably led you to loser after loser- any warm body will do.

    Enjoy being single. Learn to get to know who YOU are so that you can meet someone more suited to that.

    +1 I spent a full 12 months thinking like you, feeling sorry for myself, hated being single etc. dated the odd few guys even though I wasn't really interested in them just for the sake of it. Around Christmas I started copping on and actually enjoying being single. Was only talking to the girls a few weeks ago about how I was having a ball, and was happy out to be single for a while.

    Lo & behold, along comes a guy. Smitten Kitten & he pretty much seems to be crazy about me. Early days now so who knows what might happen but just goes to show...

    If you are happy enough with yourself as you are and not "needing" a man you are much more likely to meet one


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  • #12
    littlesurfer
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 812 ✭✭✭littlesurfer


    hate to say it but i agree....you need to be single for long enough to start enjoying it. If your lonely for a guy then its a sign you need to work on your own happiness and making your self a bit more independant.

    i was single for well over a year before i started to really enjoy it...i wish i'd gotten there sooner...now i'm kinda afraid to meet someone cause i'm not sure i'm ready to give up the single life....not ready to part with my batchelorette pad yet


  • #13
    fur-skin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7 ✭fur-skin


    Well, I have to say that although I am a man myself considering the things most say/do in their laddish stupidity I reckon you are best on your own. But I was in a similar situation and joined a pool club and whilst not in a relationship at the minute have had success, certainly more than what I would of having had I stayed indoors. My main problem was/is that I don't drink so clubs/pubs just wreak my head so that's a whole social outlet gone. I wish you luck!


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