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Unable to Express Myself .....

  • 22-03-2009 9:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have a problem with expressing myself sexually. For some reason I can't seem to pluck up the courage to initiate sex with my OH (unless I have drink in me!) I don't dress up for him as I'm too self conscious, and I also feel too self conscious to give oral (sorry if this all seems a bit forward or explicit)
    I'm crazy about him. The sex is great. But I know that it bothers him that I'm not more outgoing when it comes to it.
    I really want to get over this so that I can make it more fun but I don't know why I feel so self conscious.

    Does anyone have any advice on anything I could do to try and improve on this? It's really getting me down.


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  • #2
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Hi OP - I do sort of understand where you're coming from. I used to be and still am sometimes a bit embarrassed in situations like that. But you have start small, just little things, maybe wear pretty lingerie so when he undresses you it'll be a nice surprise.
    Then next time, maybe go to the bathroom & come back wearing something sexy, you don't have to say anything - he'll make all the moves from that point ;)
    It's normal to feel selfconscious -- I still feel that way at times. But he'll know the amount of effort it will have taken you and will appreciate it.
    Start with small things & slowly your confidence will grow a bit.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    HI OP,

    Seriously you could be my girlfriend. Im having the same problem with her. Im a little disappointed that she cant be less self conscious when in bed with me as i dont see what she has to be self conscious about. She is sexy and gorgeous (in fact i was the one that fancied her for years before we finally got together). When we do have sex its amazing but i must admit its turning into a routine as its a bit samey week in week out. But we cant seem to do anything new in the bedroom department as she gets all coy and shy and tenses up when i try giving her oral and then she stops me from going any further.

    OP, have you advice for me to let my OH know how sexy she is to try and make her see that i obviously dont see what she thinks i see that might perhaps try and let her have the sex life that i know she craves.

    Thanx


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