Not sure what happened....insight required please!

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this one as feel like a bit of a fool! Basically, met a guy I know for years, about two months ago. Got together one night, he took my number, were in daily contact, met up a couple of times. We're both v busy with work and away quite a bit so not easy to meet up every week. Both living in city Centre, well, about 10/15 mins away from each other but from the same town in Cork (small town, everyone knows everyone etc). Was never really sure where it was going but kinda kept faith in it, if you know what I mean as we both got on v well and he seemed interested. Anyway, met up last weekend at home, he asked to meet - met his brothers, his friends etc, all of whom seemed to "know" about me if you get my drift, which I felt was nice. I would know all these guys from home but never really chatted to them. Had a great night, following morning he seemed a bit off but I didn't think too much of it. I've not heard from him since, despite leaving a couple of messages for him. Now, bearing in mind we've had daily contact for two months then this is a bit strange. So I'm thinking whatever it is, is now finished. I'm not going to keep contacting him cos as far as I'm concerned if he can't be bothered even making contact then he's not worth it.
Don't know what I'm asking really - just any opinions as to what the hell happened?! We got on really well, very at ease with each other so I don't know. All opinions gratefully accepted.

Redpunto

Something may have happened in his personal life - you dont know so dont be worrying - youve left him a couple of message and he'll get back to you when he can. just enjoy the weekend and dont worry about it

Craft25

Don't just send him random polite messages in the hope he'll reply. Actually put your feelings in the message; confusion, dissappointment, anger - whatever. If he doesn't reply to that you'll just have to let it go!

petes

Failing that just ring him.

LegacyUser

You're right - thanks for the clarity! Need to step back from things and not make such a big issue of it.....appreciate the views. I'm just no good at this sort of things and the irony is, I expect him to be psychic and know exactly what I'm thinking - typical! Thanks.

Blue_Wolf

Well you tell us, did anything happen that night?

LegacyUser

yeah it did, we have slept together a few times, I didn't the first night cos I wasn't sure and because we know a lot of the same people etc...also just out of long term relationship, the usual doubts were surfacing! But it seemed like we were actually seeing each other, i.e., in touch daily, meeting up outside of pub/club scene, so I dunno. We're in our late 20s by the way. Time for me maybe to actually grow up and pick up the phone! It's only when you write this stuff down that you realise how stupid it sounds and how texting should just be banned in these situations!

Beruthiel

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Time for me maybe to actually grow up and pick up the phone! It's only when you write this stuff down that you realise how stupid it sounds and how texting should just be banned in these situations!

I'm blue in the face saying it.
Texting is for 14 year olds, adults call each other and have a conversation.
If you had done that, you'd have saved yourself a lot of mental anguish!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies - did pick up the phone, left a message asking what was going on with him and ...nothing. Not a word from him. So at least I know now! Why can't people just say they don't want to see you again instead of being really sh*tty about it and just ignoring you?! Feeling rather stupid right now!

LegacyUser

You will feel crap for a day or two but then you will be like ''whatever''. Fair play to you for ringing and just saying what you felt straight up. It takes guts no matter what anyone says.

The same thing happened to me recently but we had just been txting and meet up a couple of times. Hadnt slept with him and dont no if I even really like him but havent heard anything from him and no explaination. Went from textin all day every day to nothing...

LegacyUser

OP here - yeah I guess the key is not to read too much into it. If people can't even be bothered to face you and be honest then why would you waste any time on them. That's what I'm going to tell myself anyway (once I get past the feeling crap stage!)

MissyN

Hope you're feeling a little bit better now.
What a jerk. He must be for doing that. At least you didn't waste too much time on him though. In a week or so, he'll be as irelevant as he deserves to be.

LegacyUser

Thank you so much for all your messages - you'd think at this stage in life I'd have worked out how to read people but no such luck! Anyway, yes, he is now irrelevant - kinda knocked me a bit for a few days but have told myself that anyone who behaves like that doesn't deserve one more second of thought. It's so hard getting back into "the scene" after so many years away from it - jesus, last time I was single people barely knew how to text!

LegacyUser

TBH your guy sounds like a big eejit!! The worst thing about the situation is that it just ended so your not gonna get closure and wonder what the hell happened that it just suddenly changed.

He's not worth the time if he's the type to just treat a girl like that with no explanation. Least you had the balls to ring him, the least he could have done was have the balls to tell you what his problem was.