Think I'm Bi

LegacyUser

Hi I'm a guy in my mid 20s who's engaged to the most wonderful girl in the world. We are getting married this time next year and I cannot wait.

My issue is that I am coming to the conclusion that I am Bisexual. I have never strayed and never would but I find myself aroused and attracted to other men. I imagine myself and my fiancee serviceing another man all the time and it is my horniest fantisy.

Should I tell my bride to be about this side of me and how should I go about it.

Thanks

Any help is greatly appreacted.

Nervous Wreck

Feel free to let her in on it if you wish, but let her know that it doesn't affect how much in love with her you are. If you're thinking of asking her to help you act out your fantasy though, I'd tread very carefully, especially at the outset...

Salome

How do you think your fiancée would feel with a revelation like that? I'm usually an advocate of "honesty is the best policy" but I'm not sure if it is the right thing to do on this occasion.

This could be something that might break you up - are you prepared to take that risk?

But then again, if you don't tell her and your feelings for men become stronger after you're married - what happens then?

t-ha

Just see if she's up for threesome's generally. She might bring up the idea herself? Wouldn't come straight out with it though. Ha ha, get it - straig.... yeah eh, never mind.

Zaph

t-ha wrote: »

Just see if she's up for threesome's generally. She might bring up the idea herself? Wouldn't come straight out with it though. Ha ha, get it - straig.... yeah eh, never mind.

t-ha, I suggest you acquaint yourself with the section of the charter dealing with off-topic and unhelpful posts before you post in this forum again.

couerdelion

Whether it's a man or a woman you fancy being with how do you honestly think your fiance would react to you telling her you would like a threesome with them?

If you think she would be ok, go ahead and broach the subject but if you think she'll freak then I wouldn't share, just keep it as a fantasy.

star-pants

Salome wrote: »

But then again, if you don't tell her and your feelings for men become stronger after you're married - what happens then?

I have to agree here, you say you're feeling more and more like you are bi - is that definite or might you sway towards men more?
Obviously if you're bi, and you choose to be with a woman for the rest of your life that's fine (like any other marriage once there's no cheating). But if you think your feelings might get stronger to having a man involved in your sex life then it could cause an issue down the road.

uglyfish87

Hi, I know this is an old post but I just want to know how you got on, as it has been well over a year ago. Did you tell your fiancé? Have you explored your sexuality futher? Did you get into contact with any bisexual support groups?

Nevyn

uglyfish87 please do not drag up old posts to find out what happens next it's against the rules of the forum.