Compulsive Lying

LegacyUser

My father is a compulsive liar - I am starting to think he has serious mental issues. He has always been one to garnish the truth but in the past year or so I notice his lies are more frequent and more serious. For example, an aunt of mine called today and asked if my Mum had enjoyed her holiday. I asked her what she was on about since my mother had not been on any holiday. She told me Dad told her he bought Mum a trip to Paris for her birthday and decorated the house while she was away. Total fabrication. Not only was there no decorating, and no trip to Paris but he didn't even get her a birthday present at all ( he told her he got tickets to a gig and they hadn't arrived yet but that was January and no mention of this since). There are other little things that I am fed up hearing back - a friend of mine asked me if I was still not talking to my sister. Again I hadn't a notion what he was talking about. Turns out Dad had told some girl he works with (whom I do not know) that myself and my sis fell out over me borrowing her hairdryer (how random!!!) and in turn this girl told my friend who told me. He also told my aunt he paid half the money for my car, when in reality he had nothing to do with it I paid it myself.

Has anyone ever come across anything like this? Does anyone know what I can do about it? It is getting worrying at this stage, I mean if this is what I am hearing back god knows what else is being said that I am not hearing. I'm at the stage where I can barely look at him I just have no time for this sort of bullsh!t. Mum won't say anything to save a row but I am getting close to the stage where I won't be able to let it go. The birthday thing in particular annoys the hell outta me. I am keeping my mouth shut purely because I am not in a position to move out this year. Is it just me though or is it totally weird to go around making stuff like that up?

LegacyUser

Hi there, my father is bit the same, although he doesnt make up such extreme lies, he is a liar. For example he tells his friends that when he seperated from my mother, that he left her everything, that he was so upset as she had kicked him out, that his children meant the world to him and that he was the victim. The true story is that he was a waster, left us in debt and hasnt been in contact for a few years. He is quite fond of himself and is very self involved and i think that plays a big part in lying of this form. He wants to always show himself the great dad, or a great person / friend. People will say to me you dad is so GREAT!! and i will think, uuhhh no actually its because hes bullsh!tting most of the time, neigh all of the time. He would invent stories about things that had happened to him , i copped on after a while but he still does it. Its because he wants to make himself look good. A narcissist really. So i think in your case it could be the same, like when your dad said he had booked that trip to Paris etc, people probably thought, oh WOW what a great guy.. it doesnt change and ive found gets worse with age, but then again if he keeps getting caught out he might stop...

Miss Fluff

I worked with a girl like this, it was so extreme, every single word she uttered was total and utter fabrication. Her father was involved with the Russian Mafia, her mother had a kidney transplant, she was being "stalked" by someone on the Irish rugby team. While it caused much hilarity in the office it stopped being funny when she started making up wild stuff about me! Compulsive lying can come under borderline personality disorder, you should Google it.

Lobelia Overhill

OP how old is your Da? My Da makes up stories because he's developing Senile Dementia.