boy at work - what now?

LegacyUser

Hi

I'd love to hear form suggestions on this.

I work for a large company, young age profile good few nights out etc. I'm proud of the fact that I have never been involved with anyone from work - this is mainly because there was nobody I was interested in and I always felt these things had the opportunity to get icky on that front.

Anyway fast forward to recently there;s a huge spring corporate event and everyone is out after we're done with the official event people disperse to various pubs/bars etc and its more relaxed.

I get talking to Guy A who i don't recognise as his department is on another floor but he said he knows my face. He introduces me to guys B and C. Nice group of guys i end up hanging out chatitng with them for an hour or two. Go back to friends from my dept and tell the guys I'll see them later.

Catch up with guys ABC later - had decided i liked guy C and would see what happened. Got talking to guy C for a good while on his own and we sat a table chatting for an hour or so and went downstairs. Kissed briefly downstairs (late enough now) and was caught by Guys A&B. Guy A had made his feelings known earlier but i had no interest and it wasn't a big deal.

Anyhow guy C and I were chatting after this :- oops can't believe the caught us and how things could get awkward us working in the same place (although diff floors no direct contact) etc.

However after this we ended up going off on our own to this little late night coffee place and chatting and walking around for a couple of hours (bit more kissing too )


it was several hours after leaving the pub when i eventually got home. He got me a taxi after we left coffee shop and it was fine and breezy good night etc a night kiss. however he never asked for my number.

I don't know how things will play out at work now and i'm a little confused as the more i got to know him the more i got to like him, goes against or talk of i don't think we should pursue anything here etc. But i think i do like him and that's rare for me to admit!

It would be ok if the others hadn't seen us - i.e. nobody would know for anything for sure!


any suggestions on what to do or how to play this out?

Salome

I think the ball is in his court now. He may not have asked for your number as he knows where you work and where you can be reached. Did you actually have a conversation about the whole work thing/if anyone saw you?

I think you just have to wait for him to move first.

LegacyUser

I lasted 2 years in my job before getting with anyone and when I finally did it was at a work thing too and in front of everyone. Its really no big deal, got a couple of slags the next day but sure why do I care what others think...plus she was the hottest girl in work so I got kudos points from the lads!!! Anyway, really liked her but never asked for her number as someone above said as I knew where she worked! Just sent a few emails during work and eventually asked if she wanted to go for a drink the next week with me and got her number then. There was no awkwardness in work at all. The only thing id say is if it does get a little more serious I recommend you try to keep the relationship and work seperate as I found at the start alot of people kept trying to interfere and it can make things tough as whatever you say may turn into office gossip.

cooperguy

Send him an email and ask if he fancies heading out for a few drinks at some stage. After that you should know exactly where you stand.