Totally confused

LegacyUser

tis is goin to sound bad i know it will but id like a little help please.
two weeks ago a friend of my boyfriends died. he started talkin to his friends girlfriend lets call her x, (over used i know), now i didn mind at first everyone needs help at a time like that. but since ten teyve ben talkin no stop on bebo, msn, on the fon tis is the second weekend in a row hes gone down to she her. teyve started callin eachother love and hun and darling. its just realy beginning to get to me and i dont know wat to do. am i just bein mean and heartless or should be worried?????????
please help.

Victor

I'm sure a lot of it is down to being emotional. I doubt they are having an affair, if that what you are thinking.

Ever call one of your siblings by the wrong name (its really coomon with distracted parents)? they way people can be a blur? You know the way that with certain people, they are more like the collection of people around each other. Well I suppose, one way for her to hold on to her memories is through the decease's friends.

Why not go along sometime he visits her? I'm sure it will help all 3 of you.

sardineta

Could you see her as being attractive to your b/f? Had they known each other a long while?

IRISH RAIL

Id definitly be on my gaurd
Two weekends in a row he has gone down to her, does he stay with her?
also say to him that his pet names to her hurts your feelings.

shellyboo

The friend's girlfriend, was it her bf who died?

I think you're being a bit selfish, one of their mates has DIED. It takes longer than a fortnight to get over that. You're being a tad self-centred.

Redpunto

Depends if it was HER boyfriend that had died and how old everyone is.

When someone young dies everyone is in shcok for quite a while - maybe your boyfriend feels that he doesnt want to dump all; his grief onto you and they can at least talk to each other knowing that both of them feel the same loss.

Ask can you go with him and say you want to be there for him whatever he is going through - be supportive

LegacyUser

ive tried to go down but he goes down wen im in work.
he says he doesnt stay wit her but i don no.
and x and my boyfriend weren tat close before all tis bearly spoke to each other.
and were all over 20.

Op
You need to support your bf and not behave like you are all insecure. Thats selfish.

Heres an idea.Completely get the thoughts of that girl out of your head as if she doesnt exist and behave like you always do around him ...except this time comfort him at the loss.
Tell him that you want to treat him-maybe bring him away for a weekend.
It doesn't have to cost too much and it need only be for a day or something.

It will grab back the initiative.

Heres an idea-take the early fast ferry to holy head and spend the day there- a meal in a nice restaurant and get the last ferry back.

When people lose someone-one of the nicest things you can do for them is take them away from the source of the pain.distract them,take their mind off of it.
Give them strong different memories to concentrate on- ie a good day out with you in this case!

Do NOT make an issue of the other girl at all-seriously do Not.
Or you risk making it a big thing.

Go do my suggestion and other ideas of your own to both distract your boyfriend and comfort him

Beruthiel

OP
Can you please write in english instead of text speak.
It is very difficult to read, it makes you sound like a 14 year old and frowned upon in this forum.

If it is this girls b/f who has died, then she is heart broken. Consider that.