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Stupid silly arguements

  • 14-03-2009 12:40am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    so just a quick question. when you're having an arguement whch you know is pretty insignificant should you be the one to try make up or should you wait for the other half to.

    Case in point, i had to cut a call short to my gf yesterday which wasn't going well in the first place, this sparked an arguement with her saying i dont ring her enough. Avoiding the several other tiny problems in a relationship that come up when an arguement happens, it ended with neither of us looking to back down.

    So i'm asking, when you have these little arguements where you both think the other persons wrong, should you suck it up and make ammends or let her do so?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    in this case i'd say just give in. send a loving text message or something. dont let it fester. so long as you're not the one sucking up all the time, like a doormat!


  • #3
    baglady
    Closed Accounts Posts: 255 ✭✭baglady


    Just suck it up. If it is a 'pretty significant' argument then just forget about it ffs. I have gotten so po'd in the past at my Oh over ****ty little things - now I'm way more chillaxed and not so stubborn and it is much better like this. Just apologise if you feel you both are in the wrong, if she is decent she will say the same thing.


  • #4
    yermandan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,068 ✭✭✭yermandan


    give in wrote: »
    in this case i'd say just give in. send a loving text message or something. dont let it fester. so long as you're not the one sucking up all the time, like a doormat!
    baglady wrote: »
    Just suck it up. If it is a 'pretty significant' argument then just forget about it ffs. I have gotten so po'd in the past at my Oh over ****ty little things - now I'm way more chillaxed and not so stubborn and it is much better like this. Just apologise if you feel you both are in the wrong, if she is decent she will say the same thing.


    What they said,

    If you have the presence of mind to know that it is significant then nip it in the bud. If this girl is worth committing to, then she will respond positively to this. The more often you do this quickly, the better the communication will be with eachother and you will develop sound methods of conflict resolution. But as the above said, it has to come from both sides.

    Maybe discuss fun ways of nipping it in the bud (when you are both getting on!!!)

    Best of luck


  • #5
    Dizzyblonde
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 12,110 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dizzyblonde


    If it's a trivial matter, ask yourself 'Do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?' ;)


  • #6
    Annie Bananie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 137 ✭✭Annie Bananie


    Pick your battles. If they are silly, just be the bigger and more mature person and back down :) If noone backs down, there will always be a no win for both of you. Make sure it gets to be a both win instead :)

    I try and think "will this really matter in 100 years?". If it doesnt, I try my best to stop the silly argument.


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