Issues with Woman

LegacyUser

I'm having issues with woman for many years now. I've had a few relationships, but they always ended. My issues is that I have created a deep hatred towards woman, because I'm a nice guy, I always treated woman with respect and so fourth. But for me I never got that back in return. I have been rejected all my life, and I seem to see all these woman with a bunch of assholes that treats them so badly. I asked some woman, and they said I'm not a bad looking guy, but I'm just to nice to them. I feel that I'm either to nice, or I feel like I can be almost psycopath towards them, I don't know how to be the other way around. I'm not gay, I have thought that before maybe I'm gay, but I seem to always be attracted to woman, not to men. I'm not sure what I should do, accept my fate and just be on my own the rest of my life, or keep on trying, which I have been since I have been 15 years old, and been trying for 15 years now.

cantdecide

There are women with hearts of gold everywhere. Maybe it's your type of woman that's knackers you? Have you tried looking in the unconventional places?? Online/ clubs/ groups etc??

Don become a misogynist because you're maybe attracted to women who prefer more interesting men...

Phsyche

If you've developed a 'deep hatred of women' as you say, may be it shows through with your actions towards the ones you've been out with?

We all can feel when someone has bad feelings towards us without being told.

ubique

Don't worry about it as I have been in the same situation as you. I think its because women develop more quickly than guys so get the leading edge early on in life. After several fairly successful relationships which I have ended for one reason or another I have found the answer to keeping a girlfriend, its simple really and that is.... not to show that you are too keen on them, don't hang on every word, recognise that you have your own life too, have your own hobbies, do the things that you would normally do in your life and don't automatically include them, keep nights out with the guys precious but when you are with them make the effort - they appreciate it more.

Remember we all like to chase to some degree, as the man said 'women are hard to get and easy to keep and guys are easy to get and hard to keep'........

cantdecide

You don't have to treat-em-mean. Just don't be 100% available all the time. Look after #1 and paddle your own canoe. I'm sure it's creepy to women when guys are too eager.

LegacyUser

I do seem to have quite a bit of hobbies, but the people there seem to be really old, not people my age group. The woman seem to be more around 40+, and I seem to be the youngest 30. I did try the online thing, but somehow it never seems to go thru well. I find that clubs is a waste of time, and it's not the place to meet woman. At work also all of them are married or having children. Or there are co-ops, and they seem to be around each other, and also they are really young.